To want neighbours to keep World Cup noise to a minimum for sake of our newborn?

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This is a bit of a preemptive Aibu (and my first, so grateful for gentleness).

Our PFB is due any day now. Our neighbours like football and often celebrate/moan loudly during matches, just over what will be the baby's room (don't really have the luxury of using a different room). If this happens during the relatively late night World Cup matches, WIBU to ask them to keep it down? MIL says baby is more likely to be woken by his own movements and needs than any external noise source, so it probably won't be an issue. Would you agree, and alternatively if the noise does bother him (or us), is it ok to have a polite word? If the polite approach doesn't work, what would you do?

By the way, it is highly unlikely that the baby crying will disturb them, because noise travels down not up in our block of flats.

Their noise will be more likely to wake you rather than the baby.
It won't be in its own room straight away though anyway?

To be honest, I doubt that it would work. Even if they fully agree to try, if they are real football nutters they just aren't going to be able to stop themselves moaning or cheering. You'd be better off having the baby in your room those evenings.

Won't the matches be in the middle of the night, due to the time difference?

I don't think it would be unreasonable to ask that there be no yelling etc in the night, whether or not you had a newborn!

But don't worry too much about noise, it is better for babies to learn to sleep even when there is some noise than to train them to need total silence.*

*I do not guarantee you will be able to control this either way.

The baby will get used to noise anyway. The best advice we got before our children were born was to carry on as normal. No creeping around etc. fabulous advice, our children could sleep anywhere and through everything.

I think your MIL may be right. I totally understand your concerns however I don't think you can really get them to keep 'noise to a minimum' especially as they are in their own home, avid footsie fans and it's the World Cup! Perhaps explain the situation to them and maybe they will be more mindful of it though. I guess it's worth a try? Good luck!

well all babies are different but my DS is as your MIL describes. he can sleep through me hoovering but wakes up when he jerks in his sleep or when his hands/arms touch the bars of his cot.

babies need to be used to some level of noise otherwise you most likely will end up with a child who wakes at the slightest sound.

You have no reason to worry as of yet. enjoy the remainder of your pregnancy and good luck

In the nicest possible way, I think world cup noise is going to be the least of your worries! But, if it is, then of course it's ok to ask your neighbours to keep it down. However if they are are England fans, it probably won't be a problem for long.
As Rogan says, won't the baby be in your room to begin with?

Babies are used to hearing all the noise they heard in you so a quiet room would be a bit alien. I don't think they'd be bothered by noise. I used to sit in the sofa watching tv whilst mine slept.

Won't the baby be with you rather than in their own room at first anyway?

'The baby will get used to noise anyway'
The baby is used to noise.Conditions in the womb are far from silent!

Newborns sleep better with noise than with silence. Apparently the sound of your heartbeat is as loud as a racing car when they're in the womb.

I think it's only the first match that's late, the others are around 5pm AFAIK so it won't be too bad.
Otherwise noise really is good in the long run for baby and you, the sooner they learn to sleep through it the better.
Congrats and relax!

Newborns don't care about noise. And in my experience, the baby will be wide awake/feeding during the evening time anyway, regardless of any noise! And fast asleep all day, of course.

YWNBU to ask them to keep it down if it's bothering you though.

I would tread carefully as if tou can hear them watching football (which will be over in a few weeks) they will have months if not years of listening to a screaming baby. Your baby.

So getting snotty now will heighten the chances of them being snotty with you.

Say nothing - you may be "blessed" with a baby like DS who howled for England from 8pm-midnight or beyond for the first 3 months. You would be mortified if your baby disturbed them after you'd asked them to keep their noise down.

Compo said it better!

Try to not worry about it. It's a fortnight and hopefully baby will one of those who sleeps through every noise.

And anyway in over a year's time it will be your child running above their flat super loudly disturbing them.

The baby crying probably will disturb them, no matter how the noise travels. Baby crying is loud especially when it's in the middle of the night and there's no other noise around.

Why won't the baby be in with you though?

I think you are being a bit precious. As others have said, your baby has slept through all sorts in the womb. And won't necessarily be sleeping at night anyway!

BTW, do you know that current advice is to have the baby sleeping in the same room as you for the first 6 months to reduce the SIDS risk? It might be your plan anyway, but I read the reference to "the room the baby will be sleeping in" and thought I'd mention it.

YABU

Just think your neighbours will be keeping you company in the early hours of the morning whilst your up with your baby

Seriously I wouldn't say anything as you may very well be disturbing them over the next few years, and baby will be in your room for a whole yet won't they?

Don't worry, as PP have pointed out newborns don't care about noise (it's very noisy in utero, so they are used to it).
I'd grit my teeth and live and let live on the football, it will only be an issue for a short while and having a new baby, you will probably need their patience/cooperation at some point.

You'll probably be ok. We live in a terraced house with neighbours who enjoy all-night parties. They stress me out but haven't woken the baby yet.

You should bookmark this thread for next year- you'll laugh then :)

I doubt any noisy neighbours will have any adverse affects on your newborn's sleep - DS2 sleeps just fine with our rowdy DS1 and 2 large dogs making noise all day.

The noise in your womb will have been louder than any cheering neighbours but if you find your sleep being disturbed I would ask if they mind keeping it down a little. Your sleep is more precious than your newborns!

Good luck and congratulations!

They might surprise you yet, our neighbors used to have loud parties every few months. The last one was when I was 8 months pregnant, they haven't had one since and DD is 15 months now. The world cup seems to make people a bit more social too, they might choose to go round a friends house or go to a sports bar, not just for your sake but so your baby crying doesn't bother them!

But if they are loud in the middle of the night, for your own sake YWNBU for saying anything