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To stay when I don't feel attracted to him - for a mate

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phoebeflangey · 08/06/2014 20:42

Seriously for a mate, I only wish I had such an exciting love life lol.
Friend has been seeing a guy that treats her really well she says, they spend wkends doing nice things and he's always complimenting her. Trouble is, she's not that attracted to him. She's been trying to override how she feels in that way as she really likes him and would like it to work, but she feels like they aren't really suited in other areas :(
Is she being unreasonable to stay with him in the hope of something changing and knowing she could have a stable life with him or should she tell him now?

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upthedamnwotsit · 08/06/2014 20:47

I'm not sure but I don't think she should stay silent about it. If I found out that my (hypothetical) partner had never been that attracted to me I would feel sick to my stomach. It's not something you should rope someone into imo- they should have the chance to walk away and find someone who actually finds them attractive physically and sexually. They deserve that opportunity.

Pobblewhohasnotoes · 08/06/2014 20:49

SIBU, you can't force yourself to be attracted to someone. Essentially she's settling, and that's not a good thing.

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