Should a partner go out on their DPs birthday?

[NoOneHere]

Would you go out, during the day, on your DPs birthday leaving them to look after the kids? For a few hours, in the middle of the day, with your friends?

If no, why?

If yes, under what circumstances?

No, I wouldn't unless it was something important and couldn't be helped. Obviously it is was work its different, but social - no. DH is the same though and wouldn't arrange to go out socially on my birthday without me. Likewise for DD's birthday.

But that's how we like birthdays - more family orientated than friends, though sometimes both.

Depends how the DP feels about it really.

Well, my DH has a weather dependent hobby at a regular time every weekend. Broadly speaking I am happy for him to go and do that on my birthday. (Provided I had been given a nice breakfast, and we had something else nice planned for the rest of the day). (The kids might get TV though).

Friends I see all the time, no I wouldn't. I'd feel pretty crappy and unloved if DH did that to me. Friend who was visiting from overseas and I hadn't seen for a couple of years, then yes an exception would probably be made.

Maybe.

If DH was a miserable arse and didn't want to go out or wasn't fussed about doing anything on his birthday, so we were treating it like any other day, and my friends were going out for a few hours shopping/lunch/drinks then I'd probably ask if he minded if I went out with them for a few hours.

Depends on what is planned. I wouldnt be at all fussed if dh wanted to go out for a few hours in the middle of the day on my birthday unless we had already made plans.

I wouldn't, and have turned down many invitations over the years (my DH's birthday is close to Christmas so office Christmas parties are often arranged for the same day). DH definitely wouldn't arrange other social events on my birthday either.

That's us though - we like to celebrate our birthdays with each other. Not saying it's right for everyone as I'm sure others have different attitudes to birthdays.

Yes unless we had plans, because I'm a grown up and birthdays (as in the whole day being precious ) just aren't that big a deal

I don't think there's a definitive answer to that. It depends on the two people involved, their relationship and the general circumstances at the time.

Not if I could possibly help it. There's been quite a few birthdays where DH, who works away during the week, has been working away so effectively I've been on my own, but that can't be helped - not the same as say, popping off to play tennis for a couple hours during my birthday.

No and I wouldn't like a dh or dp doing that to me. Unless it was something really special that had been pre arranged.

We don't make a big fuss over each other's birthdays here. In fact I was on a holiday abroad with mates for DH's last one.