To think this 'nice' sought after area is anything but...

[Wishfulmakeupping]

I'm already expecting you to call me a snob or whatever but I need to put this out somewhere because I can't say it in RL as don't want to upset my OH or my family.
Basically we brought what should have been our 'dream' home last spring. In our 'ideal' (or so we thought) location basically small area with 5 tree lines 'naice' streets, top primary school etc. Very sought after and expensive. We lived about not too far away before and have friends nearby so we were desperate to buy in this particular area BUT... Its not as nice as I thought and I'm disappointed.
You may have seen me post about NDN who is a busybody from hell and without outing myself another house where some people are quite 'rough' swearing shouting etc people coming and going all hours and another neighbour knocked on to have a go at me over parking issues at Xmas. I feel like I've been misled i was expecting nice chats over the hedges and honestly there is not a single nice person I've met.
I felt much safer in my old house (that ironically was in a well known 'rough' area than I do in this supposedly nice/expensive/posh one.
We worked so hard for this move i don't feel can talk to oh :(

you are still surrounded by people. soe of them can be horrible. it does not rely on income.

You're right I feel like I've been so naive!

BOUGHT!

You get all sorts everywhere. You really are being naive if you think a pretty street means nice people live on it. Nice means different things to different people. Maybe you arent the type of person your neighbours would prefer lived there but hey ho- you are what they've got. Just go about your life and avoid anyone you dont like.

I am sorry I know what you mean. We have the opposite...we've recently moved from a "good" area to a rough one...here the neighbours are lovely...friendly and helpful. In our old house we knew not one person really as everyone kept to themselves unless our DC happned to wander too close to their posh cars.

Can you try to broach it with OH?

And misled by who BTW? did someone promise you nice neighbours?

Ha no no-one promised me anything I misled myself I was familiar with the area. I had done all the research it was top area for school, low crime rate etc and one of those well known 'nice' areas.
mrs you are so right in our old house we had the loveliest neighbours both sides and whenever I took my dd out everyone stopped for a chat :) here not so much!

MrsWinnibago we have done the same, my experience is that the posher the area the more people keep to themselves and less likely children are to play out (too big gardens). We live on the edge of an estate (council and private) and it's lovely, children play out, neighbours are extremely friendly but not intrusive, just what you would want from a neighbourhood. It would only take one nasty neighbour though to make things horrible and you really do get those everywhere.

OP, I wonder what you were expecting from the area in some ways, money doesn't always mean people are very nice.

People are quite prejudiced though, when we told a friend of a friend where we were thinking of moving, they were quite snobby about it and more or less said it had a bad reputation. Since moving here, we'd rather be here than the posher area everyone raves about where there's no place to play and people are more judgy. Having said that, I wouldn't move to a very rough sink estate where there was a drug problem and expect friendly neighbours, it's not that rough, just not the 'posh' area.

How long have you lived there BTW?

I agree that more expensive areas tend to mean people have more private space to use for playing/gardening/sunbathing/whatever and also tend to keep their gardens more secure (higher fences/locked gates) and so wont be inclined to lean over the fence or send their DC's 'out' to play. Less opportunity/need to bump into neighbours means it becomes an actual conscious effort to socialise and something you need to plan rather than just happens.

Give it time though, things may change with the better weather.