to think this is not ok?

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I had a falling out with my older siblings and it resulted in a stand off where they're now not talking to me and vice versa. I'm overdue with my first baby and they haven't made contact to wish me luck. AIBU to think they could have put our disagreement to one side to wish me luck? Or AIBU?!

Depends what the falling out was over to be honest and which of you needs to apologise first.

Could you ring them to call a truce

If you've fallen out, you've fallen out.

Depends on who's on what side of the falling out, but this is your life, your baby and no-one but you is ultimately involved.

You don't need the approval of anyone. I assume you have your DP/DH? Is his family supportive? Friends?

Yabu - what hissy says.

Presumably they knew you were pg?
I think yabu, sorry, and trying to use your baby as a way of winning them back. We're you possibly at fault, causing the rift?

Depends what the falling out was over.

Yabu to think that just because you're pregnant if you had a hand in causing the argument.

So you feel that, regardless of what the falling out was about, they should break the standoff?
Have you contacted them to try to make things up?
Do your sisters have your due date firmly etched in their minds? Might they have simply thought you are not yet at term?
Could they view your transgression as so great they have gone NC?

It's difficult yo say who, if anyone, is BU here. But it does seem as though your sisters do not want to make contact with you and vice versa, and despite the baby nobody s willing to budge. Why don't you offer an olive branch and make the first move if it is so important to you?

Wish you luck? No, yabu

Congratulations to you all afterwards then yes, I would expect that

How long has this stand-off been going on? And have you tried to make contact with them? I don't see why the onus is on them to make contact with you - presumably having a baby hasn't changed whatever you were arguing about in the first place has it?

Why would you want best wishes from someone with whom you no longer speak? That would be quite two faced of them.

How do you know they haven't thought about contacting you, but won't because you'll accuse them of doing it only because it's the exciting time of an imminent birth of a nephew/niece that they want to be part of?

If I had fallen out with someone I would attempt to make up at a neutral, non emotional time, I think.

YABU.

I think you're being a bit childish. If you want their good wishes then ring them up and sort this out. It's petty to be waiting for them to make contact because you're the one who's pregnant.

Most people wait until the baby arrives to express their good wishes, don't they? Why would you expect people to wish you good luck at this point??

Yabu.

Apart from the fact that we can't tell whether you were BU in the argument or not, which would make a huge difference to whether they should make contact or not, why do you want them to wish you luck when you have chosen not to speak to them?

There is no reason why your pregnancy should make any difference at all to the outcome of your argument unless you choose to let it change the way you behave.

You want someone who you dont speak to to wish you luck on your pregnancy/baby?

It doesnt matter who they are that is weird and unreasonable.

I agree with all the others, just because you're pregnant doesn't mean they will necessarily be able to put the argument to one side.

They may have had enough of you and gone NC, knowing you'd think this way and wait things out in expectation that they'll back down because of the baby. Aka they see you as a PITA or manipulator.

or

They could be being petty about it or being shitty and waiting it out expecting you to call them for help and support. Aka, you're better off without those PITA and manipulators.

You know your family and the argument- we don't. If you've fallen out with more than one sibling then I'd question what it was that made both or them (or more) side together against you- bullying a younger sibling or finally standing up to one and telling them how it is.

I can understand your sadness that you are not in touch with your siblings at this time. What was the falling out about? Because you have not contacted them either maybe they don't think you want contact and don't want to stress you out while you are pregnant.

I have family members who go round in circles with their issues because the go NC and then get in touch on the birth/hospitalisation/birthday/Christmas of the children and never sort out their issues, because it's "Happy Families" for a few weeks but then, of course it blows up.

It's wearing, I've told them all straight that I no longer want to know and it's not going to affect me.

Now isn't the time to make contact.