To feel a bit miffed?

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I am very close to my sister, generally we get on very well and she's an important person in my life. Lately we have been having some tension between us (over quite big stuff, we fell out and both fucked up, she moreso than me, both said hurtful things) but have talked and agreed we want to mend the damage in our relationship and move on.

As things have been slightly awkward lately, we have been less warm with each other. Today we were texting about something and I came around to saying I love her and she texted back not mentioning that, just replying to the other part of my text about when we could go for lunch. I texted back saying I hoped she still loves me too and she replied saying of course she does.

AIBU to feel a bit miffed I had to demand ask her so directly?

Fully prepared to be told I am, but I am weepy and hormonal, in my defence, and I think I'm scared in a way that the relationship will never be as close and loving again.

I would say you are being a bit unreasonable, you're reading things into it that aren't there IMO.

If she'd said 'well actually, now you mention it I don't love you...' you might have a point, but she said she did and that's what matters.

Even if she didn't say she loved you back on purpose because she doesn't, (and I don't believe that) she wants you to feel that she does, and that's good because it means she cares about how you feel (ie she loves you )

It was a lovely thing to say to her though, you'll both be fine I'm sure.

I think you are tbh. I understand why you wanted the reassurance from her but really it was a forced confirmation that she does wasnt it? And it didnt make you feel better for hearing it. And really you know she loves you. You didnt really need her to say it, you just needed her to say that things are ok between you. Dont be miffed- people get over things at different paces and not to your timescale. She probably didnt like being forced to tell you she loves you. Maybe she is miffed about that?

Anyway,my advice is to forget about it, know that she lives you and give her time to get back to normal at her own pace. Dont be pettu.

Thanks. Knew deep down I was being a bit U

It did mostly cheer me up that she said of course she does and I was glad she came back with that reply, the miffed-ness was more like a side dish

As I said, hormones aren't helping, and we did have an upsetting big row but I am hopeful all will be well. I suppose I wanted to check it out here and see what others thought to get some perspective.