Me and my mum have always been close. I am the eldest of three and the only daughter.
We live about ten minutes apart, and I see or speak to her and my dad most days.
But certain people around us have a problem with that.
I used to be close to my mum's oldest friend's daughter, we grew up together and did everything as kids, but as we got older she got into the whole drinking 4/5 nights a week thing whereas I was happy to go out maybe once a week, and we eventually found new friends who suited us more.
But we still met for coffee, lunch etc when work permitted. I realised we hadn't spoken for nearly a year despite our mums still seeing each other weekly, so I arranged to meet her to see if there was a problem. She said: "Yeah, you spend too much time with your mum, it's sad."
She sees hers at least 3 times a week, BTW.
I have never, ever cancelled anything to be with my mum, I only see her if I'm free, but as I seem to have very few true friends locally, I see her quite a lot.
Also, my OH works shifts and takes the car, so, for example if she's going shopping, she'll pick me up to go too.
Then today, I had to work for a few hours, my mum had DD cos OH was at work (and by coincidence, the work was at a place opposite my mum).
After I finished, I went round to pick up DD, and my mum offered me a sandwich before we went home.
My SiL turned up unannounced and first thing she said was "What are you doing here? Haven't you got a sofa at home you can sit on?"
She only ever visits when she wants something, despite living round the corner -in this case it was to plead poverty because they spent £5,000 on a kitchen recently but now can't afford to put petrol in their car for work.
She has her mum and sister living locally, I have no-one else like that to turn to.
Plus, AFAIC, it's my choice who I spend time with - I'm incredibly fortunate to have a mum I can spend so much time with and also acutely aware, due to various recent events, that one day, for whatever reason, it won't be possible.
I don't really enjoy staying at home when OH is at work, although I try to do so where I can so DD can play with her toys, make stuff, whatever and obviously we go to the park etc but we are not really within easy non-driving distance of anywhere fun so it requires lifts or long bus rides with changes.
I have a few friends I see sometimes but now I am starting to feel that the reason I don't have more is because I don't need them, which I am now wondering if that is weird or unreasonable.
So is it, or is it everyone else's problem?