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To be a bit miffed with DP

21 replies

MissCalamity · 07/06/2014 14:49

Ok, so it's really trival but I can't help feeling really annoyed with DP.

My sister had her first baby this morning after a long labour.
I'd already said to my sis I'd go to her house next Thursday when my Ds is back at nursery so we don't have to cope with a whirlwind 4yo running about, so to give her & her Dh a bit of space & to get themselves sorted a bit.

My DP was at the hospital this morning as his mum is in there & went to see my sister whilst he was waiting for his mum. I'm just really annoyed he's done that as my sister was probably exhausted & would be too polite to tell him to piss off, he rang & told me and I told him off on the phone (especially as my parents were on the way up to see my sis at the correct visiting times) he said he was only there for 2 mins. He's such a nosey git, as if it was me it wouldn't occur to me to do that.

Am I a misery guts or what?!

OP posts:
Busymumto3dc · 07/06/2014 14:50

You are a misery

mrssmith79 · 07/06/2014 14:53

Yup, misery guts.

Imsuchamess · 07/06/2014 14:53

I agree with you I wouldn't want my sisters husband popping in the hospital to see me. Especially after a long birth

sunbathe · 07/06/2014 14:53

He's a bit thoughtless, imo.

ThinkIveBeenHacked · 07/06/2014 14:55

You are a misery.

Andrewofgg · 07/06/2014 14:55

I think he showed great kindness. Even if it was just to say Hello and admire his new niece/nephew he was right to go.

But congratulations Auntie Flowers

Nanny0gg · 07/06/2014 14:56

YANBU. But are you really miffed because he's seen the baby first?

LIZS · 07/06/2014 14:57

yabu I fear you're jealous that he's seen her and you haven't. He was up there anyway .

SquinkiesRule · 07/06/2014 15:00

Stop being so miserable. Sitting in hospital is pretty boring even with a squishy newborn to hold. I had my Dh's best friend turn up, then he came back that evening with his wife, and also Sil dropped by with her Dh, no one stayed all day just a quick hello how are you, isn't the baby cute type visit.

SanityClause · 07/06/2014 15:03

He did a nice thing. He was at the hospital anyway, and only stayed a short time" frankly, it would've been rude not to go.

If she was recovering from a Caesarian or a very difficult birth, then, I agree, perhaps, he should have stayed away. But as you haven't mentioned that, then I'll assume that wasn't the case.

If she's still in the hospital, why don't you go to see her today, if DH is in a position to look after your DS for a couple of hours?

Original poster
MissCalamity · 07/06/2014 16:45

Ha, Ok I'll take it that I'm being miserable!
I am probably jealous he's seen her first Blush

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Whathaveiforgottentoday · 07/06/2014 16:50

As long as it was only 2 mins, I think its quite nice he popped in. I would have understood that he was only popping in as he was already there in the hospital.
Actually if he hadn't popped in when he was there, I might of thought that was odd. Although I would be peeved he'd seen the baby before me!

GilmoursPillow · 07/06/2014 16:51

I'll give your shoulder a squeeze for admitting that you may be a bit jealous, but console yourself with the fact you have a kind and caring DP.

If I was your sister and I got on with your DP I would be somewhat touched that he stopped in.Smile

FryOneFatManic · 07/06/2014 17:06

Actually, I don't think you're being a misery.

I would not have been happy for any visitors other than those I'd expected. So if my DSis's DP had turned up I would have been cross, but then when I was in I was really, really tired, and I can be antisocial at times anyway.

It's the idea that someone is going to see you when you're sore, leaky, etc that bothers me

CuriosityCola · 07/06/2014 17:08

I think he should have checked it was ok first. Especially if it wasn't proper visiting times.

Bowlersarm · 07/06/2014 17:11

I think he was fine. He was there, and if it was a case of popping his head round the door and saying hello I don't see a problem with it.

PuppyMonkey · 07/06/2014 17:24

I think given the circumstances - that he was at the hospital anyway and not just randomly barging in on a whim - it's perfectly ok. I'm sure she wasn't that offended. My MIL turned up 20 minutes after I'd given birth and told me I looked "pasty." Now that was unreasonable. Grin

Writerwannabe83 · 07/06/2014 18:36

My first thought was, "She's jealous...." Grin

I probably would be too though Grin

bloodyteenagers · 07/06/2014 18:40

Poor bloke cannot win really.
He went to see her, thinking it would be nice or whatever. After all he was in the building. Someone had a go at him.

He would have stayed away. Someone would have found out he was in the building and had a go at him for not popping in and seeing her.

ThePinkOcelot · 07/06/2014 18:51

You are being a misery. If it were my DH, I would probably be impressed that he actually thought about it..
He only stayed a couple of minutes, so what exactly is the problem?!

EverythingsDozy · 07/06/2014 18:56

I wouldn't have minded if my BIL popped in after I had had the baby and I know my sister would have been jealous like you Grin

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