To ask what you hate reading in school reports.

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I am a teacher but I have no DC. I am in the middle of writing reports. I never ever copy and paste as that is rude. The nicest comment a parent ever made about my reports was that she could tell it was about her child and that I really knew them.
My question is, what phrases and cliches do you hate reading in your DCs reports?

They are indeed different rumplestilt- I was that child and it made me determined to not raise my hand more. I hated my reports because of it.
My mother said that they would think I didn't know if I didn't raise my hand- I said that they could think that- I knew that I did!
The way to help is not to draw attention to it.

A lot of teachers just don't understand introverts and see them as a problem.

"A lot of teachers" may well have noticed that a quiet child is able and has good ideas that emerge in writing. Possibly they are offering another avenue for them in expressing themselves.

It's called extending the whole child. Encouraging them to push a few boundaries.

That sort of thing.

Another one who got bored to death being told that dd was quiet. The teacher I really rated was the one who went on to say that that was absolutely fine, because when she did say something it was worth listening to.

When you have been told from 5yrs to 18yrs that you are too quiet that someone would pick up it wasn't helpful. The best teachers were the ones who looked beyond it.

Words like beneficial or benefit were changed to Jackeficial and Jackefit etc.

I sincerely hope you called the teacher out on this. That's outrageous.

My dd generally gets reports that say what a pleasure she is to teach. My ds usually gets reports that say he is a bit of a PITA. As we talk to the teachers in year neither are a surprise, and as they often have had the same teachers (they are a year apart and at the same school) we tend to trust dd's reports as they have previously been fairly frank about ds. But then we've always been supportive and acknowledged that ds can be difficult (he is also very good at charming his teachers, so they always have something nice to say too). Interestingly the last couple of years dd's reports although still quite glowing have included a bit more about what a madam she can be, whilst ds's reports show how much he has grown up.

We like to know the grades but it's the comments that really paint the picture. Current school gives us every grade as work is marked (it all goes into an accessible scoring system) so we know how they are doing all year (especially useful for ds who is still terrible at getting his assignments in). We get a sentence or two from each teacher at report time, so hopefully a lot less work for each of them although obviously the volume is much higher.

Dc is a quiet polite child means they dont know them used to drive me potty

I have just received the annual (note annual) report for my DS - we live in Europe, great secondary school system, very high in European league tables but very negative reporting.

Teacher A - Emma's DS … is an enigma. After one year I can't tell you anything, he is either sick, tired, or just shy. (that was it)

Teacher B - I told ……. that he had made a mistake, but he argued back. (nothing else)

Teacher C - ……..made monkey noises whilst singing his song. (no more)

There was just one very positive statement, the rest said one liners about not contributing in class enough. There was nothing helpful. This is for a 14 year old, he has passed his year so is doing well but this is what we get.

His form teacher that read out the reports was positive about our DS, otherwise I honestly think I would cry.

Dc is a quiet polite child means they dont know them used to drive me potty

Or that they act differently in school. I tell most parents the plain truth about their child's behaviour. When I have told a number of parents that their child is polite and well behaved in school they question it as they are nothing like that at home.

Works both ways though. It's nice when teachers also listen to parents saying their child is anxious at home because of school even though they don't see it, can't quite see what the child is anxious about etc...,

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Apart from the generic copying and pasting resulting in being told how much your dc enjoyed school activities when you know he was in bed with chickenpox...

one thing I really, really used to hate was "X's mark is badly affected by her attendance" used of a chronically ill child without any suggestion as to how X could get help to deal with this situation. Not as bad as "X needs to improve her attendance" in the same circumstances- that is the absolute pits. (Especially, of course, which hasn't happened to me but to others, if X is terminally ill & school have been informed).

Also, anything, anything at all pointing out to parents that having a disabled child in the class makes more work. Believe me- they know.