to announce the sex of my babies on fb after 20 week scan?

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Already have 2 boys, am now expecting twins.

Was speaking to dp's grandparents on the phone the other day when they asked if I would be finding out the sex as they don't think it is right to and they want to find out after the birth.

Problem is they are friends with me on fb. I keep in touch with friends and family all over the country and over seas by facebook and everyone seems quite excited as it is first set of twins in my family.

'D'p thinks we should text/email everyone who wants to know and make sure they don't put anything on fb.

I'm thinking I might have to get the face paints out to write and draw on my bump what they are and hold up either 2 blue, 2 pink or one of each colour tops either side of me, take a picture and upload on fb.

Aibu in thinking they have overstepped the line a bit in telling me what I should be doing? I feel like i'm being controlled.

YANBU, tell them to hide your posts until after the birth if they are going to be so precious about it. It's your news to share when you want to.

Its your news you tell it how you want to. my mum didn't want to know but I did and while I could have tried keeping it from her I know it would have slipped out at some point.

You're pregnancy, do what you're happy with. I found out I was having a boy and most of my colleagues were excited to find out after my 20 week scan but one of them got really arsey because I'd said. Really annoyed me.
YANBU but as others have said maybe warn them you are doing it so they can make the choice to see it or not.

I didn't announce my pregnancy at all in FB, would rather text people, but its your right to if you want.

No way would I be Facebook friends with in laws but can you change settings ??

It was dp's idea to put dating scan pics up, he also has family and friends all over the place. most the people I keep in contact with on fb I don't actually have numbers for.

I am thinking of changing them to restricted, but then I know my best friend will write a status and tag me and dp in it as well meaning they will see it on his wall

Think is other people are bound to slip up in front of them and they will find out anyway.

We were in a similar position, we had two boys then found out we were expecting twins. We chose to find out the gender of the babies at the twenty week scan and were then completely open about that news. It was before I was on Facebook, but I'm not sure how a member of the family could have avoided hearing the news even then, unless they lived the other side of the world or something. If your DP's grandparents feel that strongly, they must be prepared to avoid Facebook, texts, phone calls and real life family conversations until the babies are born.

you can choose the audience for your posts. if you don't want a person or even a group of people seeing a particular status then they wont be allowed to see it.

next to your photo/status there will be an icon of a silhouette. click that and then click custom you will see 'share this with' and you input relevant names and a 'don't share this with' and again you input relevent names.

also if you change your settings so you have to approve posts before they appear on your timeline then no matter how many statuses you are tagged in it will not show up unless you approve it.

Yanbu.

I would at least warn them to stay off the internet from here on out. Make what they find out their own fault. :)

I announced the sex to everyone on facebook equally. My parents didn't want to know either. I forgot after I got the scan and blurted it out. You would be surprised at how not upset people are when the mystery is ruined. My mom had more fun than I did picking out baby clothes went online and started showing me baby girl outfits right away.

It's not their decision to make.

Tell people if you want to.

Now I'm curious - what are you having!? :)

Yanbu. It's your pregnancy, not theirs.

I feel like I want to announce it even more since they said they don't want to now.

gingerandcocoa my scan is in three weeks time so will update then. Am almost certain one is a boy as I had a scan last week and there was something in between twin one's legs.

They said they don't like all the pink vs blue stuff, well I went into mothercare the other day and there was hardly any neutral clothes so don't see how I am meant to buy anything in advance?

Your pregnancy, so you do what you like. They can always hide your posts. Chances are someone will slip up and tell them over the next 20 weeks anyway. Very exciting !

My MIL doesnt want to know once we have foubd out next week and while ive told her I wont explicitly tell her,she needs to prepare for the fact that it isnt going to be kept a secret from her.
Tbf theyve hhad their kids.

Oh and id recommend H&M for lovely unisex stuff.

Just make it a custom post (click the bit that says "posting to friends" and it will come up with options, one is "custom" and you can exclude them) but let them know you're announcing it to others so if they don't want to know they might want to avoid facebook/talking about it to others. Their call!

It really pisses me off when people do this! My mum made a big thing of not wanting to know, and got annoyed when one of the kids told her. I wasnt to going to not tell my other children the sex of their sibling just in case she found out!

My baby, my choice.