To not want mine or dps fathers names on our marriage certificate?

[trashcanjunkie]

I am nc with both of my parents, due to horrendous abuse in my child and early adulthood. Dp hasn't seen his father since his parents divorced when he was ten.

Why the fuck should we have to have those bastards names on our certificate? Humph...

I was not born in the UK and have never seen my birth certificate so information on it could never have been used later on.

I don't recall even having to produce my birth certificate before or during our wedding..?

Glad your mind has been relieved. It's ridiculous that in 2014, fgs, there's still no option to put your mother on your wedding certificate if you wish. Think we had MIL and my Mother as the official witnesses to even things up, IIRC.

On a slightly selfish note, it's a bugger for people tracing their family history when the fathers' entries are missing, though. Although clearly people have their reasons and it's a free world and all that.

We finally tracked down my Mother's birth mother's wedding certificate - hurrah - but there are no fathers listed for either bride or groom. Very frustrating as it stops us hunting down other relatives. (We have since worked out the groom had a father who was living at the time, who knows about the father of the bride - certainly not us...)

Yes I take your point edam - in essence I don't object to him being officially noted somewhere as my biological father. It's just, on that day, in that very special happy moment, I don't even want to think about him or the dreadful things he did, and certainly I don't want him recorded on my lovely shiny bit of paper....

I Have twommaiden names on my marraige certificate its ridiculousI

My father isn't on my wedding certificate, they asked for his name & I said 'no thanks', crossed through no questions asked.

He's on my birth cert & that's enough assosication for me!

gallicgirl I know I found it so bizarre. When I do my notices I just put my mum down and they said she could go on the marriage certificate but when it came to the wedding when they meet you just before the vows they said she had to be removed but her partner could be on. I was too excited to get married to dispute it.