Sorry but I need a mother in law rant.
Mil is a bit weird. Very sensitive and easily offended. Anyway. Husband and I have a 4 month old. Since birth she has visited maybe 4 times. We have to go to them as she doesn't want to intrude despite us telling her to just pop by. She retired a couple of weeks ago and we said now she will have more time to pop by and see baby. I have told her just to phone if she wants to come see her. Last week she called but I was just about to head to a baby group and explained that. 2 days later I called her but she was out.
Today she calls and says she has some cakes to bring over. I said ok but I'll open the door, don't ring bell as baby is asleep in pram in hall. Then I thought well she is going to want to see baby and she's only just gone to sleep so I said actually could you come in an hour so baby will be awake. She says yes that will be good, see you in an hour.
2 hours later she has still not arrived. Husband came in from work so I asked him to phone her to check she was ok and ask why she didn't show. She said she thought she would be intruding to she'll come over later (because husband is now home). He told her she couldn't because baby was now going to have her bath etc and go to bed. She knows we have her in bed by 7!
I just think it's so rude to tell someone you will be over at a certain time and not turn up, call or anything. And as it happens I did need to go out but stayed in for her which annoyed me even more. Arghhhhh.