AIBU in wishing that there are some decent men out there?

[sometimeslifeisjustunusual]

This post is more of a rant, but I am just fed up. My mother is a lovely, decent and hardworking woman, who left her goodfornothinglazyunloving husband five years ago. Since then, she has tried online dating and I am sick of seeing her high on anticipation before a date and coming back just to be left without even a text for the next three weeks. This morning she got an email from someone she had been communicating with (who seemed like a nice enough bloke) addressed to a different woman with some rather disgusting content, and she told me that it was not the first time that it had happened.

Is there any hope in finding her someone she can be happy with, or AIBU in telling her to stop trying to find people online and join a salsa club?

Salsa all the way. I'm not convinced a truly happy relationship is possible with complete trust and love. Speaking a knackered newlyish wed with a nine month old who's just found yet more voicemail messages for DH on our answer phone from a certain someone.
If she needs a salsa partner then I'm in.

My theory is that in school when we were taken aside to talk about periods there was a conversation taking place in the boys changing room about how to be a bastard, training if you like.

However there were boys not in school that day, they were off sick etc. those boys grew up and are now men. We need to come across the man that wasn't in school that day, or one that wasn't paying attention.

no there dosent seem to be any decent men around,i have 3 sons and im gonna make it my life's work to make sure they dont turn out like the current shower around here

There are loads of lovely men out there, finding the right one only has to happen once!

I'd agree that Internet dating isn't the way to go about it though, salsa or ballroom dancing or any activity that is likely to involve other people would be a much better place to start.

Sorry should qualify earlier answer by saying we met online in a way but not on a dating site. Music site and we both ended up at the same concert. Damn you Paul Weller!

My DH is a lovely man. I met him at a dance class.

Well, I've just been more or less dumped after 7 dates so i'll join that salsa class too.

Really not sure what I did wrong as he spent the last date complimenting me, kissing me and generally acting as if he liked me, then.... nothing!

There are decent men out there. Oddly enough and IME, they are only visible once you realise you are happy on your own and only want them for sex.

Then they make themselves known.

I'm sure there are many lovely men out there, but they've either been taken or too afraid to meet someone else.

Yes and Dione makes a good point. I run from desperate men, and I'm sure men run from desperate women. I get plenty of chat ups, but not any that I want. Shall be single until one comes along that does the right thing

There are nice men out there.

There are no perfect men out there.