A few days ago an old friend contacted me to ask if I was still in touch with my ex fiancee. I explained that we spoke occasionally and met up (as a group of friends) a few times a year.
My friend then said they had bumped into my ex who was drunk and after a few minutes of conversation he brought me up out of nowhere and began saying some unpleasant and really personal things about me. My friend told him he didn't want to hear it and walked away but was just letting me know as they would want to know if someone was saying things like that about them.
My issue is that I am going to a party this weekend and my ex will be there. He has always been pleasant and friendly to my face, so will likely be the same. It is a celebration for a mutual friend so I am hesitant to say anything to him as I would rather just enjoy the day however I feel very uncomfortable with some of the things he has said I spoke about it to another friend who admitted he has said things to them as well and it makes me wonder who else he has said stuff to.
I won't really be able to politely ignore him without it being fairly obvious and making other people uncomfortable but don't feel comfortable chatting to him either! It all feels very high school!
Would I be unreasonable to have a quiet word with him and let him know that I know and if he feels the need to be nasty about me in the future he should perhaps be more discreet or would I be better to just leave it and pretend that everything is ok?
For the record I ended our engagement although this was nearly 4 years ago.