food shopping

[happycamper80]

So I do 99% of food shopping. Fair enough I am a sahm. However dh occassionally moans about how much we spend. For example ds asked if I had brought something (I hadn't) dh moaned about how much we spend! When ds was disappointed.
However, when I shop I always search for bargains. Eg I got a 20 pack of crisps for £2.50. Ok 4 packs may be wasted as no one overly keen on the flavour. However, he went and purchased a 12 pack for £3.30 the same week / offer period
Aibu to say yes we need to look for bargains when we do shop pointedly.
Obviously I know crisps are not essential a nd we should probably both stop buying them but as everyone in the family likes them and we can afford them why not have them as a treat?
As a sideline he also thinks I take too long shopping. He is much quicker as he just buys what he fancies and doesn't check for deals etc. (Crisp episode proves that)
I also frequently get the we do not need groceries today etc when of course I know we do as I do the packed lunches and meal plan etc

Food shopping is a nightmare in my house - me and DH would argue all the time if we went shopping together I just like to pick up what I want and put it in the trolley whereas he takes forever looking for the 'best value' option.

As a results I now stay at home and send him off to do the shopping with strict instructions about the items that definitely can't be 'own brand'

It's less hassle if he just does it himself - he can't annoy me that way

I had this with DP about two years ago. I gave him £40 (he felt was too much) and told him to get a weeks worth of shopping with it.

He phoned me up an hour later and begged me to come to the supermarket - I got there and he had about 10 items in the trolley, his calculator on his phone and looked at me with "I don't know what the fuck I am doing" eyes that told me he would never criticise my shopping again.

It worked for us!

Let him do it, he can do it online, let him see how difficult it is for himself!

cross post, but unanimous- make him do it!

This would drive me insane

I am a bargain hunter and like that, we can afford treat like steak on occassion and some nice branded things.

Dh used to spend on himself for five nights a week (commuted from home town) on what I spend for seven days for us.

We eat well. He is impressed and never questions me. I would send your dh out without a cash card and usual money and see what happens.

test him - ask him if he know how much 4pts of milk, a dozen eggs or a decent loaf of bread are. How about 500g of cheese? or what about 4 tins of chopped tomatoes (can't believe the price of these now I only ever buy when they are on BOGOF!)

I bet he has NO IDEA

Let him do it

My DH had a moan a couple of years ago.

I gave him 2 choices

1. do the meal planning and shopping himself
2. shut the fuck up.

He decided he could do it cheaper, so I let him get on with it

He then shut the fuck up when he actually sat down and worked out just how much stuff cost - no, a pint of milk doesn't cost 25p DH

'no, a pint of milk doesn't cost 25p DH '

er yes it does
www.sainsburys.co.uk/shop/gb/groceries/fresh-milk/sainsburys-british-fresh-milk--semi-skimmed-227l-%284pint%29

Get him to do it, or come with you and collect the things on the list.

I got ExH to do it once, after a big row about loo roll. He diligently went around picking up the cheapest of everything he didn't use or eat and then proudly came back clutching a jar of £5 jam saying it was the stuff his family used to get on holiday in France as a child and he hadn't seen it on sale over here before and had to have it because it reminded him of happy holidays.

It was then pointed out to him that if we ditched the jam, we could go back to Fairy instead of watery own brand washing up liquid, and Andrex instead of scouring brush loo roll. He let me get on with it after that.

When I was ill dh did a weekly shop & came in £15 under budget, he drove home intending to lecture me about my weekly budget of £40.

He was really pleased with himself until I looked at the receipt and realised 3 days worth of food was missing.

He lets me get on with it now.

I started doing the food shop when DW was off the road after surgery and I still do. I know her rules about when own-brand is not acceptable and when it's left to my discretion. She watches some damned thing that I don't like while I am out doing it. Works well for us.

Well, you can get a four-pinter of milk in Tesco for £1 these days, and also in our local shops too, so on that basis it is 25p per pint.

My hubby doesn't do the family shopping. God knows how much we would spend if he did!! He does pop into the supermarket and get the occasional thing he wants if it isn't something the rest of the family would normally have, and he tends to take charge of the shopping for booze if we are hosting a special occasion.

I do all the food shopping as DP hates it and races round like we're on supermarket sweep.

I was once ill and he went to do it - I gave him a list. He came back smug that he'd spent half what I do. When I queried where such and such was, he replied with 'oh, I didn't bother going down that aisle!' Never again.

He never questions what I buy and I usually ask him if there's anything specific he'd like before I go.