To feel I shouldn't have to deal with this?

[Darkandstormynight]

Dh & I married 15 years. Dh's parents convinced marriage wouldn't last (They would have hated anyone, it's not personal) so when they made their will they noted in will everything to go straight from dh to ds, I was not to receive anything. Which I'm totally fine with. Dh knows they are a bit mental; plus they have had a hard go with their lives so I try to ignore what I can.

Two months ago their has been a death in the family and they are chancing will. Things are a bit better they have accepted we are married. So they asked dh if I would feel bad if my name was still not in will. Dh told them to ask me! I told him NO please don't have them ask me! It would be so ackward! I have accepted their wishes but don't wish to have this conversation (a very hurtful one for me as I've been a good dil) again!

I told dh they should consult their lawyers, do what they really want to do and let it be. I don't want to be involved. Is this unreasonable?!

How embarrassing for them to ask you whether you want to be in their will or not as if they're Lord and Lady bountiful.

They want to seem like they're doing you a massive favour and I bet there'll be massive strings attached (or whopping great ropes)

YANBU to not want to deal with it just refuse to engage in the conversation about it.

I'd just say "sorry I feel really uncomfortable talking about that - it's up to you what you do"

Oops, sorry, sanity it's a bit early for brain to engage.

Tell them if they want to sort out their affairs and leave you put of it....To bleeding well leave you out of it altogether.

They're shooting themselves really. Without being so odious maybe you would move into their home when time came, took care of them, and the house and land and then pasd it on to their grandson when your time comes....

Now they are almost guaranteeing a miserable old age with their home and land going to ruin as you can't live there.

Reap what you sow is right.

No problem.Ride. Have some .

They are being wierdly blunt about it. But in my situation my grandma left her house and many cherished possessions to my mother, who passed away leaving everything to my father (I think she left it to him with the idea he would leave it to us..) My sisters and I all have a very strained relationship with my F so I doubt we will ever inherit any of that at all I expect he will give it to his girlfriend and her son. Ive let the money go, but my m and gm both collected beautiful jewellery and china/silver and Im sad that I dont have any of it even just to remember them by. If my m did intend me to have some of her things I wish she would have given them to me in her will and left F out of it. I think she did, maybe she didnt.

I did nick and old enamel teapot from his house after years of asking him if I could have something of my mothers. My m used to make herb tea for us in it when we were ill and its of little real world value so I doubt he notices its gone. I feel bad I resorted to nicking something thats technically his, but I love using it and it reminds me of her. Its not right of me I know, but then nothing about it feels right anyway.