To be irritated if DH has a "quick drink" after work?

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If he is out for the evening that is cool, I can drink wine, order a takeaway and watch some shit on telly. But a quick drink? Just means I have no help at bedtime then still have to cook tea and compromise on telly watching etc. AIBU?

Obviously, I do love spending time with DH. But I kind of relish an evening to myself.

YANBU I love it when my DH goes out. I would do this....tell him that a quick drink means relinquishing ANY power over tele and you will always order takeaway or he has to fetch it home with him.

if it is every day then YANBU. However, if it is a rare occurance YABU.

if you want to go for a drink, arrange it with him. He does bedtime, you go for a drink and pick up take out on your way back.

YANBU. The worst of both worlds. Not sure you should put a stop to it though, assuming it doesn't happen often,

YANBU - If my DH says he's going out for a quick drink, I then set the expectation that I'm going to be chilling doing what I want and when he gets home he will have to fend for himself and under no circumstances interrupt my tele watching!

I quite understand. But you know we can never say this, don't you?!

I'm not going to put a stop to it - that would be outrageous.

I am a SAHM so a drink has to be arranged with some notice.

He does it perhaps once or twice a week. It is variable though, sometimes he is out three or four nights a week for the whole evening (client dinners etc). Sometimes he is back every night for a week.

Oh nooo, you are doing wrong. If he goes for a quick drink after work he is morally obliged to bring you in a takeaway... It is the law (in this house, anyway).

YANBU! It sounds mean, but I completely know where you're coming from.

I don't even have small children to do the bath/bed routine with, and I'd rather DH was home normal time, or late.

I completely agree.. drunk men, or even men who have only had one or two drinks, should absolutely go out, but come home at bed time and not before!!!

Oh - forgot to add - OP - YADNBU !!!!

I agree with WilsonFrickett - quick drink means HE has to get the dinner on his way home.

Which means he had BETTER NOT BE LATE

I know what you mean. DH goes out straight from work a couple of nights a week and always on a Friday. He'll often say that he won't be late and I'm thinking no, please do be late. If he arrives home around 9 that is usually the time my bum is hitting the sofa for the evening and I would prefer a couple of hours all to myself.