to think FIL staying for 3 weeks is quite a long time...?

[Bigsooze]

He was going to leave this weekend after a 2 week stay but hasn't mentioned going anywhere. He's not too much trouble, helps with a bit of gardening. I just have to feed him (safe meat and 2 veg dinners), wash his clothes and make him lots of tea and put up with his stinky incontinent dog... He was widowed last year and lives a long way away, so visits are never going to be short... but 3 weeks is loooong. Or AIBU...?

I think it might be a good idea to plan a little mini-break during FIL's next visit. Seriously.

'I certainly don't want to get to the point where I make you feel bad as I resent your dad imposing on us, DH. So I think from now on, the best thing to do would be to make sure I've got a lot on during his visits. That way, I get to see him, but not feel suffocated, and you get some good father-son time. So I'll be here for a couple of days the next time he's here but will be away Fri-Mon at X's. Sure, we'll see less of each other, but tbh I'm not prepared to feel bad about that when you clearly don't feel that our personal family life is worth more than setting boundaries with your dad. I'll leave you a list of his favourite meals of course...'

Get the feeling that once you make that move, boundaries might start appearing...

Hope he is making plans to leave