nc obviously :)
Friend is having a hen weekend in a few weeks which I have agreed to attend (select few, weekend of relaxing in country cottage, etc - personally I would have preferred something with more sunshine but others didn't want to go abroad, so went with the majority view)
In addition, and nearer to the time of the wedding, she is also having a hen night, which I am also invited expected to go along to. Hen night is in town A, I live in town B, which is a good 40 or so miles away - by public transport it would take me 2.5 hours or more, so if I go, I'd have to stay out overnight.
Bride to be lives about 10 miles away from town A, but in the opposite direction to me, however she couldn't put me up as her fiance won't have guests in the house 
Another friend (who is invited and can put me up for the night) lives about 15-20 miles away in another direction to both me and bride, however as a cab is likely to be £40-50 each way and she is only in a MW job, she probably won't go.
Which leaves me either:
- In a hotel for the night (though there's nowhere to stay in A, so not sure where I'd go);
- With a 3 figure cab fare home; or
- Saying that I'm very sorry but I can't make it.
WIBU to go for no 3, esp as I'm a bridesmaid??