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to tell my neighbours to shut the bejezus up, or just leave it

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mindthegap79 · 02/06/2014 23:42

The majority of my neighbours are lovely - we feed each other's cats, chat when we see each other out front, bring in bins when people are out. All very nice.

Apart from the elderly couple next door. Over the years they've upset everyone. A sample of their crimes include going through drawers in a holidaying neighbour's house when they were looking after the keys (it was dark and the lights were on, many witnesses); reporting a neighbour to the council for not having planning permission for his garage even though he had it and had spoken to them about it; letting their grandchildren spray my washing with water pistols; climbing into our back garden when we were at work, going into the garage through the back door (lock doesn't work). This set off the burglar alarm - they then told us a total lie that the main door was open at the front and they'd gone to investigate (it was locked)...

Anyway, we've tried to just be friendly from a distance (and extended the 3 foot fence to 6 foot). I took her flowers when she was ill, etc.

We've never challenged them about anything, but now I have the urge. They are bloody loud. Several times a week their grownup children visit until late. When they leave, they don't just leave. They stand outside talking regurgitating their conversation from the night before for ages. Ages, I tell you. And they don't lower their voices despite it being midnight. And my room is right by their driveway.

This has been the way for years, and although it's irritated me I bear in mind that we leave for work very early and our car noise might disturb them, and our cats have been known to leave terrible surprises amongst their hideous garden ornaments (which aren't in proportion - elephant standing shoulder to shoulder with a duckling type thing)... except now I have a baby, and they keep waking her up with their late night ramblings.

Wibu to say something, and how to do so tactfully? I thought about standing at the bedroom window (ground floor) staring out at them with my strict teacher eyebrow raised, with crying dd and my usual night time look of mad hair and not quite fully removed eye make up as this would alarm anyone and make them rush inside to a place of safety...

I know this isn't a terrible problem. But it's annoying that they keep doing it. Grrr.

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Ghirly · 02/06/2014 23:45

I actually have a similar problem to you right now.
I can't sleep because of my next door neighbour's karaoke.
He doesn't work but I'm up for college at 7, my son has school tomorrow and my eldest daughter is up for work at 5.30am

Grrrrrr

Bogeyface · 02/06/2014 23:46

Just rush out and say "OMG!!!! I heard the racket and though you were being broken into! Is everything ok?!" and then next time have another neighbour do it!

Bogeyface · 02/06/2014 23:47

Ghirly I think that might be grounds for 101 actually, or at the very least, EH.

mommy2ash · 02/06/2014 23:47

could you not just speak to them nicely if it happens and say look if you wouldn't mind keeping it down a bit its just my baby keeps waking and im sure you don't want to listen to her crying all night.

its easier to do these things nicely than to start an argument.

Ghirly · 02/06/2014 23:49

bogey I try to keep the peace as I have two children under 8 so I know we can't be the quietest but I think you're right

mindthegap79 · 02/06/2014 23:57

Hmmm Ghirly your problem neighbour sounds much worse! Is the karaoke a regular thing? I'd call 101.

All good suggestions, thank you. I did once try to broach the subject of the washing spraying and somehow the conversation turned into her telling me how lucky I was to be young, unlike her. I think her words were "You are so lucky to be young, not like me, I'll be dead soon. How old do you think I am? Tell me, tell me how old you think I look!"

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RaspberryRuffle · 03/06/2014 00:37

So did you guess correctly ,-)?
I'm not sure, the trouble with the nice approach is it usually only works with reasonable people. Since the neighbours sound fairly self-centred I would go for the running out to see what the commotion is, or the not wanting to disturb them.
Good luck. Had former neighbour who used to hoover at 6am next to my bedroom so I sympathise!

CorusKate · 03/06/2014 01:49

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mindthegap79 · 03/06/2014 03:10

Raspberry - sadly no... I misjudged the handling of the situation and it all got a bit tumbleweed. I think I brightly exclaimed "50...?! Not older than 50, surely! What...even younger then?! You're looking good for it!" She knew I was flapping...

CorusKate You wouldn't believe it - there's an entire temple which is smaller than a family of ducks with an absent father (I wonder if he was dropped at the garden centre or if he's just that sort of mallard) Grin

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