Am I being unreasonable to wonder what happened to my once sweet and kind daughter?

[MrsSethRollins86]

She turned 11 last Friday (23rd May) and she's become a nightmare!! Answering back, having major strops over the slightest little thing and just generally being argumentative!

You can't have a decent conversation with her as it descends into her shouting and storming off to her bedroom, slamming her door for good measure! Oh and she thinks that she is right about everything!

Her poor 6 year old brother also gets a hard deal from her, she used to spend quite a lot of time with him now she shrieks at him to leave her alone.

I am tearing my hair out, what has happened to her?

My brother did this. I think its just doing the 'teenage' thing early. He was a nightmare 11-13. He is 14 now and lovely, while a lot of his friends are still horrible teenagers!

I saw your title and knew she had turned 11

But it shouldn't happen overnight; is she worried about school? Going up to secondary?

It's horrible at the time but I firmly believe it's like having toddlers, you have to re-train them back into decent human beings and if it takes a few nasty nights, so be it.

Hormones

My DD is 12 and I only realised today that the reason she sits on the backseat or in the front staring out of the car window was because she has been wearing mascara to school.
She then sat and lied to my face.
When I asked her for her ipod, to take it away from her, she took it out if her blazer. So he had taken a £250 gadget to school.
I despair.

Don't worry! Your lovely children will be back, in a few years, and they will really appreciate how hard you tried to parent them lovingly and consistantly during the difficult teens.

I consider myself a surviver of my daughter's pre-teen years and feel like it was just be the skin of my teeth.

My daughter had severe PMT, for two weeks out of every month and the day her period arrived, she because sweet and reasonable again. But she also ended up with severe period pains, then severe headaches. I took her to an acupuncturist for the headaches and he saw the problem immediately as relating to her hormones and with just one treatment there was a major all-round improvement.

I don't say this is the solution at the moment for you, but if your daughter develops any of the other problems you might want to bear it in mind.