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AIBU to hope that eventually I can meet a decent partner?

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92littlecat92 · 02/06/2014 17:05

I know I am a loyal and loving person as a friend, daughter, sibling and until fairly recently as a partner. I have been cheated on and left while pregnant and this has made me question my ability to choose a suitable partner. Ex was the only person I have ever had a romantic relationship with. I know that most men are not bastards, its my own ability to choose one that isn't that I doubt. I will be a single mother, with a mediocre job and am not a good looking woman (I am not saying this for empathy or fishing for 'I'm sure you are', just stating the situation).

I already realise that my daughter (due in October) is now the most important person in my life and always will be, but I don't want to be single for the rest of my life at only 21. At the same time I am terrified of being hurt this badly again and of my daughter being hurt to if I allow myself to develop a serious relationship again that ends badly.

Am I being selfish/ unreasonable to hope that I can eventually meet a man who will love me and love my daughter like his own?

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restandpeace · 02/06/2014 17:08

Not at all and beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Good luck with your baby.

expatinscotland · 02/06/2014 17:10

Please, please stop focusing on men, dating, partners, etc.

You have a lot on your plate. Spend some time on your own and focusing on your child and your life before worrying about a man.

BertieBotts · 02/06/2014 17:14

You're 21!! You've only just begun your adult life.

Please focus on yourself and your daughter for now, there is loads of time to meet someone special.

CoffeeTea103 · 02/06/2014 19:13

You're only 21. Focus on your new baby, set some goals, have a plan for yourself. Worrying about a man now without taking care of yourself first may just lead you to another bad experience. There is no rush.

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