to think that as a sahm I dererve a break too.

[newcastlebelle1]

So we have been away on holiday. During said holiday I haven't had a single lie in. Dh had one till 9.15 and one till 8.15. I have sorted breakfasts for dc. We have 3 including a toddler. I have done 90% of washing up. Almost all bum changes for 2 dc. I have been the one dealing with toddler during restaurant meals. Dh had just sat on his arse as per usual. I had one night out with older two which was lovely and dh stayed with toddler so I could go on a few rides at theme park. He than went on to say what a wonderful break I have had from dd.
Since returning home dh now hs a cold so has pretty much lounged around whilst I do childcare, diswasher loading and holiday washing for 5 and supermarket shop whild dd napped.
Aibu to think I deserve a break too. We shared driving btw.

Deserve

If someone ever deserves a break that is surely YOU!!! Do get some rest

Did you ask him to share the mornings so you got a break too?

That's the trouble with holidays with Kids
They're just a home from home
And your dh sounds like a feckless lazy waster :(

I think because he gete up an hour before me during the week he feels entitled to a rest. He does work hard during the week and brings home a good wage. Out of house 12 to 13 hours depending on traffic so he genuinely believes he cannot do more than that.
Tbh I probably could have made it clearer but didn't want a row in a small caravan.
Also posting for views as wondering if maybe he does need a rest due to the pressure of being sole wage earner. Not my phrase but seen it before on here.
Thank you for replies

Well at least you know now to negotiate and make your expectations known before going away again.

He sounds like a lazy arse, sorry OP.

Well, he probably is tired and does need a rest. But so do you. You should share the resting time, even if that means that neither party is as well rested as they'd ideally like in the end.

Be clearer and more forceful about what you want/need. Your DH has no qualms thinking about his needs, you need to do the same!

Oh, and you don't need to wait until the next holiday! Tell him that you need a break this weekend coming. Just a couple of hours for you. Go out somewhere so you don't get interrupted.

That's horrible but you need to be clearer with men... I discovered this the hard way!

When we had dc2, I asked dh if he'd like Saturday or Sunday lie ins . We both have tough days so need to share weekends and holidays! He doesn't complain when I put things like that. If I ask him can I have a lie in he's doing mea favour. If I moan after the fact, I'm nagging and having a go at him. So telling is the best way I find.

Stop being a martyr and expecting him to receive your telepathic messages. Tell him that you need a break, give him dates, times etc and ask which would be best rather than asking if it's ok at all.

Of course he needs a rest, you both do.

I'm a SAHM with school aged kids so I don't need a rest, but I do like a break from the norm and weekends and holidays should be just that.

My DH manages to work hard, rest and pull his weight...it's all about balance.

Though I have to say, he's never been the sort of man who could just sit there, raising his feet while I hoover underneath them.

If there's work to be done, we pitch in together and always have.

You need a long chat with your DH, not an argument.

On holiday we do alternate mornings - unless one of us wants to negotiate