Too old for such a bout of girly silliness...

[SolidGoldBrass]

Been having a chat with an old pal. He is flirting with me. (He is single at present and so am I) I am simultaneously going 'OH FFS' and giggling and smirking to myself. He is quite nice looking, we have been friends for 20 years (and 20 years ago he was stunning but going out with a mate of mine) but I also know that he is one of those men who is a nice friend but a truly horrible boyfriend.

So why am I smirking and giggling to myself? It's a bit sad really isn't it.

No it's not sad because you sound clued up about him

Therefore you can enjoy the silliness for what it is. If it gives you a boost/lifts your mood and you're both single then why not enjoy it?

It's no different to the 'girly silliness' we see on MN almost every day about people eating chocolate for example.

Just roll with it but stay clued up about him.

Not at all, OP - the fact that you're flirting means that you've still got a heart beat! Some things never die. I remember my embarrassment watching my 72 year old mother flirting with an equally old flame at a mutual friend's funeral!

In your case, you obviously feel an attraction to this man on some level and, since you knew him in your youth, the years have fallen away and you feel young and foolish again. Enjoy it, I say!

You know perfectly well you're not too old for a bit of rampant lust.

Call it like it is love.

Jump him

There's nowt wrong with a bit of banter.

You're a little bit tempted aren't you?

How often do you have contact with him?

Would your life be significantly shitter (more shit?) without him if you took things further and they didn't work out?

G'wan, life's for living

Is he good for a shag? I'm not a fan of FWB for myself but you know, needs must and all that.

TBH I think he is too big a headache for an actual jump, but I will enjoy the fact of being flirted with.

Enjoy the flirting, never mind the jump

Oh just jump on, you can easy jump off again. You know your stuff, you're no wallflower

Sometimes the headaches are the best jumps.

The dream of a jump with the relief of a headache dodged is the best combination, deffo.

At what age should women stop feeling flirty? At what age should we stop making love having sex?

I haven't stopped.

Just enjoy it

Nowt wrong with a good flirt!

You kind of want to even though you know hes a wrong un enjoy the girly silliness and have fun wheres the harm

If flirting could be bottled Olay would make a fortune. Puts a sparkle in your eyes and a smile on your lips. Go for it.

Calculated you are in your thirties/forties.(apologies if younger, but who cares). This is the Prime Of Life, thanks to the blessed Joan Collins. Youth is wasted on the young; you are now able to be young with the benefit of experience. Enjoy every minute; you know what you are dealing with.