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To think that MY MIL is the strangest of them all?

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Chocoholism · 31/05/2014 18:54

(Tis a bit light hearted but true)

My MIL visits maybe monthly, I used to dread it when u first had DD as she always made comments that made me feel anxious as a new mum,now I can sort of laugh to myself about it and just nod and smile. DD is now 6 months and I find her a bit strange really, she is super anxious and always says watch the baby's head, watch her back, mind her legs, this makes me laugh; she says not to let her tilt her head back to look at you or whatever catches her eye, as it will make her eyes go crossed.
She talks to me through DP, does Choc want a biscuit, (I'm sitting in same room Fgs!)
She does talk to me but it's when she asks a question.
I'm writing this as someone else on AIBU inspired me when they wrote of feeling upset their MIL doesn't have her phone number, mine does not and wouldn't call me anyway!
I know she likes me and cares about me in a weird way as she always gets me thoughtful gifts and considers what I want to make me comfortable/happy. I don't know if it relates but she is from south east Asia and is very small minded in the sense that she questions nothing, I could tell her that the bible says we should only wear purple on Tuesdays and she would just do it.

Which Is why I find it bizarre behaviour, can anyone top my MIL?

OP posts:

NeedsAsockamnesty · 31/05/2014 23:00

And nobody would be saying a thing about you posting this if it was headed

To think my mum is the strangest of them all

Whyowhya · 31/05/2014 23:01

And nobody would be saying a thing about you posting this if it was headed

To think my mum is the strangest of them all

Course we would

TattyDevine · 31/05/2014 23:02

Oh c'mon, the op knows her mil better than us and would know the likelihood of her coming across this thread.

It is meant to be lighthearted.

I would wager that the average mother grates as much as the average MIL if balanced around

We are the next generation of freakishly annoying women and men, but we still are able to vent somewhere hopefully.

OP your MIL sounds 50% lovely and 50% bonkers which is pretty much ideal I think.

TattyDevine · 31/05/2014 23:03

And if your own mother doesn't give you the shits then its likely she does your partner.

Kakaka · 31/05/2014 23:05

I reckon the asking via dh could be cultural. Have you asked dh about it in particular?

I spent a frustrating week in Bali before I figured out that the Balinese cannot say no or I don't know to you. So if, for example, you ask for directions some where and they don't know the answer, they will just give you random directions rather than tell you they don't know. We spent a lot of time very lost before we worked it out!

Serenitysutton · 31/05/2014 23:06

Mine is the most irritating person ever. The latest thing annoying me is she never looks at you when she speaks- she stares past you the entire time and it makes her look most odd. It's nearly as annoying as the constant interrupting and speaking over everyone

Tapirbackrider · 31/05/2014 23:07

Unless the OP tells her MIL that she posts on here, and what her user name is, she's safe from detection. That's the great thing about a board with so many users and such a variety of inventive user names.

snoofle · 31/05/2014 23:10

People are getting found out from on here frequently Tapir

Longdistance · 31/05/2014 23:14

Get this as weird.

Mil is divorced from fil. She has remarried since, and still continues to hen peck fil. To the point that mil stays in fil's house when she comes to visit us from 200 miles away, and leaves her new dh at home up norf.

I believe it's called having your cake, and eating it.

I have so many stories, it'll make your hair curl!

Whyowhya · 31/05/2014 23:16

Remember NurseyWursey, she got found out

SanityClause · 31/05/2014 23:23

Ann Tyler wrote a book about a couple like that, Longdistance, called The Amateur Marriage. Give it to your MIL as a Christmas/birthday present?

Tapirbackrider · 31/05/2014 23:26

If posters give out too many easily identifiable details, then they will be 'outed', as it renders the anonymous user name stuff unworkable.

Rupertandfifi · 31/05/2014 23:33

long Is your mil my mil?? I would suspect that we are married to brothers but my bil's are both single so that is ruled out.
But mil and her ex dh have a very similar set up.
Weird to me.
Dh finds it totally normal.

snoofle · 01/06/2014 08:06

Tapir. You are an older policewoman. And you have written in some detail about what happened to your young teen ds at his school.
I should imagine that there are already some lurkers who know exactly who you are.

snoofle · 01/06/2014 08:09

Time for me to nc again I think!

Tapirbackrider · 07/06/2014 18:43

I'm not a police officer, haven't been one for many years.

Subtext · 07/06/2014 18:57

I think it's fair enough to say that someone who talks to you via someone else is weird.

Because that is weird.

I can't imagine how I'd react if it happened to me. What do you say OP?

I'd be tempted to tell her she can ask me directly if she'd prefer!

Bardette · 07/06/2014 20:00

I have three mothers-in-law. They're all a bit strange.

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