DS coming home from nursery with dirty hands... who is BU, me or DH? (Warning: trivial)

[JesusInTheCabbageVan]

DH has asked that I put this to the jury, as he considers me to be wrong.

DS regularly comes home from nursery with really mucky hands, from playing in the garden. My view is: bit of muck probably good for him, can wash it off when he gets in, no harm done. They have their hands full at pick up time, not practical to be washing loads of kids' hands, particularly when they'll just go straight out and start digging in the mud again.

DH thinks it's out of order* and "if they weren't so nice, I'd say something."

So. Who is right?

*DH has asked me to clarify as follows. "I don't think it's out of order. That makes me sound like a typical moany husband. Put that I know they're lovely and all that, or something"

Kids get dirty... As ling as hands are washed before meals and after the loo tell DH to get over it! ;)

They'll wash their hands before meals/snacks and after the toilet.

Does your DH expect the staff to wash each child's hands when they see the parent arrive?

Sorry MrJesus, but you are wrong. A bit of mud never hurt any child. Its great that your nursery allow your DS to get mucky. Our nursery are just the same. They do wash hands for eating obviously.

I imagine that the nursery staff would be a bit if you complained about dirty hands.

Knew it. FFS should have bet on it with him - losing my touch.

Mr Jesus is wrong. I would rather they let them play in the garden as long as possible rather than bringing them all in to wait all clean like.

My view is the same as his - would be much better to wash mud off hands but it's not worth making a fuss about it if everything else is good.

I wouldn't be too bothered. A peck of dirt does no harm in most cases, and builds up their immune system.

I suppose they should encourage the kids to wash their hands if they are really mucky, but supervising umpteen small children to do that AND get them ready to go home might be tricky.

I think back to the days when mine sat on beaches as toddlers and ate sand. It never did them any harm.

I'm surprised they don't bring them in and clean them up before pick up.

For me it depends on the age of the child. Under 2, I would expect hands etc to be clean (1-3 ratio and everything going in their mouths), over 2, the muckier the better!

I agree with him if there is a general time everyone is picked up. But if collections are staggered say 4-6 I understand why they're not washing everyone's hands.

DH looking chastened. sunbathe I'll tell him you're fighting his corner

What's out of order about it? My son is out playing at nursery until I pick him up. If he had to come in and stop just so he could have clean hands coming home I'd think that was a bit shit tbh. Let him have fun instead.

I would expect them to wash their hands before leaving. Regardless of mud but just in general!

DS is normally still busy in the garden at pick up. Staff have higher priorities of supervising and debriefing to worry about hand washing.

He is being unreasonable! My DS always comes home clean mind you - he is 18 months and demands that any tiny speck of dirt on his hands is removed immediately. Doesn't seem to bother him if his face/arse/feet are manky though. And he drinks out of puddles so I think his immune system will be alright...

I just wash hands when the boys get in. Still make DS1 do his - and he's 10.

"I'm not looking chastened. I'm looking.... um..... mildly intrigued at the possibility of my being wrong"

Says DH.

Dc should be mucky, Mr Jesus yabu.

Is your DH Mr Banks from Mary Poppins?

Chin up Mr Jesus!

DH googling Mr Banks and will let you know.

"Oh, is he the uptight dad?"

I come home each day with muddy hands. I have done for over 25 years. I was a soils engineer and now teach horticulture. I once took a group to a stables to bag up horse poo; and once the bagging was done, opened a sandwich pack and started eating my lunch without even a wet wipe being cracked open. [The students were gagging but I did laugh].

Mr Jesus - wind your neck in mate!

I'm a clean hands type...it hurts to say, but I'm on (mr) Jesuses side. (Jesus's, Jesus'????)

He's this fella my DH's hero

m.youtube.com/watch?v=LZXITCwBdJQ

curious well he does have slippers DH spluttered a bit when reading up on Mr Banks, then got sidetracked and started telling me random facts about Mary Poppins.