Ds is 8, never been dry at night, possible mild ASD/ADHD which is currently being assessed/diagnosed. Bathroom next to his room, all lights left on, also has a potty next to his bed in case he wants to go in the middle of the night when it's dark and quiet outside his room (never, ever uses it though).
Tonight, he was a bit later than usual going to bed as he begged to watch Britains Got Talent with me. Fine, as it's half term and he can sleep a bit later. After cleaning his teeth and generally pottering about, it was about 9.30pm when he went to bed (usually goes at 8pm on a school night). Between going to bed and 11.15pm, I heard him go from his room to the bathroom 5 times, and called down a couple of times to check he was ok, to be told he'd been to the toilet. I went to bed at 11.55pm, checked in on him and he's wide awake and laying in a soaking wet bed.
He's confirmed he hasn't been to sleep, went to the bathroom for no reason and is totally aware that he has laid there and wet the bed several times over. He's wearing a pull up yet it's soaked through to the point of his entire bed, down to the pillow, being wringing wet through.
I've told him off; made it clear that if he's weeing in his sleep, I'm fine with that as he can't help it, but it is never acceptable to lay there and deliberately wet himself. He doesn't do it in the day, so why do it at night? It's making me question whether or not he is actually wetting in his sleep the rest of the time, or if it's a deliberate act.
I'm sitting here now feeling guilty for telling him off, but it's made me cross. He has a few developmental issues, but, apart from the night wetting, toileting has never been an issue. I just don't get why he would just lay there, wide awake and wee? He says he doesn't know, but that's his stock response when he's caught doing something he shouldn't! AIBU to be cross? I'm at my wits end :(