I'm organising a friends hen do. Its a weekend away in England. Location and guest list provided by the hen and another friend and i have done all of the organising, accommodating peoples individual needs where necessary and trying to keep costs down. I dont want to start a thread about how hen and stag do's are bullshit and another unnecessary expense for wedding guests as i kind of agree but this is not my hen/wedding and we are going with the wishes of the bride to be.
Anyway, we do not personally know all of the invitees as they cover work colleagues past and present, old school/uni mates etc so I have been trying to convey as much info as possible through email so everyone stays in the loop with plans and nothing is done that will have a cost implication without everyone agreeing etc.
There is one woman, that cannot seem to decide whether she should come for one or two nights. I dont care either way what she does, it makes no odds, but we do need to know in order to book accommodation and stuff. Ive asked her several times now as we need to firm up bookings soon and every time i ask I'm getting a question as a response. Questions have included- is there parking, is it free? Will we be eating lunch on Saturday, what time will we be going home on Sunday the list just goes on. The latest one is can i give her a total of how much the weekend will cost her including travel and spending money. She has already had a complete breakdown of each component of everything we are booking and totals for 1 night and 2 but she wants me to tell her how much spending money she needs and how much petrol! She is a grown woman!
I completely understand if she wants to make sure she can afford it before she commits but for goodness sake, how am i supposed to know how much petrol she will use or how many drinks she will want???? She is saying she cannot tell me whether she can come for the additional night until i let her have a total.
AIBU to just tell her to piss off that she will have to try and work that out herself?