Have name changed for this, but PomBears, Riven, etc., (but never naice ham, what was that thread all about? I see it referred to as a regulars badge of honour but it passed me by completely.)
I am very happy with DH, but of late, this has been really bugging me. We have both been lucky enough to earn very good money throughout our marriage, and at the start I would say I earned a bit more than DH, but in the last two years he has started to make £££££s. This is great - he works extremely hard and deserves his success.
However, there are a few things we are doing at the moment, renovations, things like that and I just can't contribute to the level that DH can. We have always contributed equally to the household and childcare costs. I know we are lucky to be able to do some really cool things in our life and to our home, but recently he 'jokingly' refers to 'his money' and 'I'm paying for everything' and it's starting to really get me down. I found myself today feeling obligated to pick his clothes off the floor and sorting out all his laundry because I felt guilty that he's paying for the lion's share of the things we are doing right now. I do it all the time and think nothing of it, but today I just felt a bit strange about it. It suddenly made me feel really 'emasculated' (I know that sounds weird because I'm not a man). But it's the first time in my life I've not been able to go halves exactly. I mean, I could, if we decided to do everything on the cheap, but it's our family home and we have the cash collectively to do things exactly as we'd like to because of DH's earning power at the moment.
I don't think I have ever (when I have been the bigger earner in a relationship) or would ever mention 'my money' when it comes to doing things for the family. It's not like I have ever, ever asked him to pay for my clothes or luxury items and I never would.
I just feel, oh I don't know, weird about it.
I'm being U, aren't I? Or am I not?