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to not want to be in charge of socks ever again

23 replies

feelinghothothot · 28/05/2014 22:27

having been in a marriage for 13 years where i was responsible for every detail in the home (my all-time fave being that he would never put the bins out because 'i might not feel like doing it on a monday', wednesday suits me better), i have had the thunderbolt of realisation that socks are no longer the pinnacle of my existence. not so new DP is going away for a week and asked me where all his socks were. i feigned interest for about 30 seconds, and the thought fuck the fucking socks. i make the money, i pay the bills, i don't give a flying fuck about your socks. anyone else feel the same?

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SockQueen · 28/05/2014 22:31

I love matching up the socks. It makes me feel happy when I find the "friend" of one that has been sitting in a drawer lonely for weeks.

DH's pants or shirts though, couldn't give a crap. If none are clean it's not my fault.

MaryW1980 · 28/05/2014 22:36

Good for you! There are bigger things to worry about in life than socks!

lacktoastandtolerance · 28/05/2014 22:42

Pair by thickness, not colour - your life will be forever happier and fuller.

lacktoastandtolerance · 28/05/2014 22:43

Also, he sounds like a bit of a twat.

ICanSeeTheSun · 28/05/2014 22:47

I thought I would be cleaver and buy all the same colour socks, just basic black socks.

The bastard things was harder than the multi colour ones.

itiswhatitiswhatitis · 28/05/2014 22:48

DH and I share socks so I only buy the same brand of black ones, ds's both share grey socks for school and blue socks for day to day. It is a joyous and simple system.

PrincessBabyCat · 28/05/2014 22:48

My DH knows the drill. His clothes go in the sorted baskets or they don't get washed. :) So if they're not in the basket, or wash.. not my problem. Up to him to hunt the house for wherever he shed them off like snakeskin.

diddl · 28/05/2014 22:50

There are many shades of black!!

PrincessBabyCat · 28/05/2014 22:50

DH and I share socks

I hate sharing socks. DH's feet are massive compared to mine so he stretches mine. I used to have white socks, but he'd wear them, stretch them out and they would no longer tightly fit around my feet. I bought fun patterned socks, he can't mix those up and claim ignorance.

RubyGoat · 28/05/2014 22:51

PrincessBabyCat I just pointed your post out to DH. He has picked up his socks! Grin

itiswhatitiswhatitis · 28/05/2014 22:53

I have big feet (7 Blush ) and DH has small feet (8) so it works for us. Shades aren't an issue cause I buy about 20 pairs of the same socks and replace once a year (old stuff gets chucked so as to avid shade confusion)

Same with ds's socks.

itiswhatitiswhatitis · 28/05/2014 22:54

Avoid not avid

BeCool · 28/05/2014 22:56

I have a lost socks bag - any sock looking remotely single goes in there and then when we run out of socks the DD's have a sock matching competition. Sorted.

OP YANBU

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feelinghothothot · 28/05/2014 22:58

we share socks too. but somehow once it goes into the wash it all seems to be my responsibility. or maybe it's just my imagination. it's just me having palpitations at the thought of being that bullied housewife again. we have mooted the point of him becoming a SAHD. i'm enjoying the thought of it more as time goes by Wink

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Selvedge · 29/05/2014 01:03

There is no place for sock nonsense in my life. Every pair is different. Only paired socks are processed. Problem sorted.

maras2 · 29/05/2014 06:17

Even after 40 years married I would faint with surprise if DH ever tried to initiate a sock conversation.Along with Astro physics and the history of the tory party, men's socks are a complete anathema to me.

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feelinghothothot · 29/05/2014 10:06

I should also add that the thought of ever having to share a bank account again also brings on the cold sweats

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olivespickledonions · 29/05/2014 11:13

Men marry/live with women so they will do this shit for them. That's what my husband tells me anyway.

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feelinghothothot · 29/05/2014 11:31

I am afraid that the majority of men (that I have come in contact with) probably agree with him!

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Poofus · 29/05/2014 11:34

It is not normal to blush because you have size 7 feet!

scarletforya · 29/05/2014 11:37

I don't pair socks. What a waste of time.

FunkyBoldRibena · 29/05/2014 11:39

I do the washing and it his responsibility to iron and sort the undies, including socks. I leave a pile of dried stuff on the bed and he sorts it next time he goes to the bedroom.

LookingThroughTheFog · 29/05/2014 11:43

I have reclaimed the socks job. DH is not an incapable man, and he does loads around the house, but I'm sick of wandering from room to room, rifling through everyone's socks draw and redistributing them according to owner, rather than according to some insane system that only exists in DH's head.

He puts everything else away, and I've politely requested that he leaves the socks in the basket so I can just get them right first time.

I'm with you on shaking off some of the assumed responsibility though, and 'where are...' questions drive me mad. I've stopped responding; 'I don't know; where have you looked?' and started using; 'Have you checked up your bum?'

Suddenly I'm no longer required to know the exact location of every single possession of every member of the family.

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