Do and I have 4 kids between us. All boys. Mine are 13 and 15 and his are 17 and 18. His kids come here every Saturday night until Sunday and when they do they have full unlimited and unrestricted access to everything we have. The main 'downstairs' computer, the tv and playstation, dp's precious guitars and amplifier ... They don't need to ask, they just pick up and use. My kids however are not allowed the password for the main pc yeah they have their own laptops but so do his kids!) and they are not allowed to "take over" the tv if we are in (but we have to sit there for hours watching his ds play grand theft auto in the living room on a Saturday night). We've just had words because my eldest has been using dp's guitar and he's pissed off because it's "his" and he worked hard for it and it's special to him etc ... Yet my lad has to watch whilst his own kids thrash around on it without even asking permission to go on the bugger? He seems to have adopted this mindset that "his" stuff (the tv, computer, guitars etc) are private and should be respected as such and not touched yet this doesn't extend to his own kids, how is this fair? This isn't family life is it? This is a "your family and my family" set up. I'm really sick of it. How can he even justify allowing one set of kids the password for the PC but not the other two? The age gap isn't that big. Aibu? Even I feel like I'm "not allowed" to do certain things like use the garage for example. I can't imagine this set up was in place when he was married to their mother.