to think this is really selfish

[medic78]

so we are on holiday and are cosleeping with an 20 month old. dd was quire restless the 1st night so neither of us got much sleep. last nigh dh swapped with dd1 so had a fab nights sleep on his own. he than lounged around in that room slill 9.15. by than I was having a shower with dd in room with me.
he than came and got toddler dd out of shower room. A nice gesture until he came in wanting sex. dd was crying the other sideaibu to think this is bang out of order.

He sounds like a control freak to me medic....he does what he pleases without regard or discussion with you. You don't say as much, but I bet if you were to take yourself off into dd1's bedroom for the night like he did, there'd be hell to pay. The name calling is designed to lower your self-esteem too.

Some men can't handle or accept not being put first, even when children arrive. They believe they should be the centre of your universe and, sadly, men like that never change (except to get worse).

Only you know how bad things really are for you but if deep-down you know he's a control freak, don't waste your life on him because the longer you're with him, the more he'll crush your spirit.

Hope you are ok now and have a bit of distance between the two of you!!

He is thoughtless and uncouth at best. What a charmer.

thank you. going home tomorrow. dd was unplanned so I think he blames her for our lack of sex. not the fact that deep down he would have preferred an abortion.

Oh medic I am sorry. Your poor DD and poor you.

He is abusive and absolutely vile. You must leave him.

Well we are keeping out of each others way. He is spending weekend with his mum.
Before going he claimed he didn't sleep well in the single bed because he was worried about falling out. It was good enough for me and our co sleeping toddler though on a previous holiday.

Thank you for the replies.