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AIBU?

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Aibu to be shocked by this

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Carrie5608 · 27/05/2014 20:54

Dh and I were away for a few days last week. MIL was staying over and babysitting.

Ds (aged 6) got in trouble at school on one of the days for kicking another child. Mil said he got sent to the office. Dd (9) had told her. I spoke to Ds who said yes he had kicked and got sent to the office.

So i phoned school this morning and spoke to principal who said "oh no, not at all," Ds was on time out in the corridor and he was just passing at the time and had dealt with it.

Except Dd is adamant Ds was in the office.

Why would the principal lie? Ds is SEN, limited language skills.

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MegMogandOwlToo · 27/05/2014 20:56

Maybe he got mixed up, maybe he forgot.

FamiliesShareGerms · 27/05/2014 20:56

In the office / sent to the office / sat outside the office - could all be the same thing??

LindyHemming · 27/05/2014 20:56

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Carrie5608 · 27/05/2014 20:58

Thats what I was wondering if I was reading too much into this. Sounds like I am.

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AnyoneforTurps · 27/05/2014 20:59

Do you really think that the most likely explanation is a wilful lie by the principal (or anyone else)?

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Carrie5608 · 27/05/2014 20:59

Shocked that a principal would lie, I suppose he could have got mixed up. I imagine this is small fry to him.

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TheScience · 27/05/2014 21:03

Isn't it all the same incident, no one "lying"? Your DS got sent out of class for kicking a child, the principal was passing and dealt with it.

Doinmummy · 27/05/2014 21:05

What difference does it make whether your son was in an office or standing in the corridor though?

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Carrie5608 · 27/05/2014 21:10

Ds has SEN i had asked for him not to be in office as he gets extremely anxious about that.

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DoJo · 27/05/2014 21:24

Maybe his anxiety caused him to remember the office, even if he wasn't there. I cannot see any reason for the principal to lie, whereas the combination of knowing he was in trouble, being sent to an unusual environment and being spoken to by the principal could all have combined to make your son misremember the details - I doubt anyone is actually lying!

AnyoneforTurps · 27/05/2014 21:31

And surely the corridor is potentially inappropriate for a talk about bad behaviour if other kids are around? Could be humiliating for your DS. I'd want the staff to be aware of DS's anxieties but give them the leeway to manage behaviour problems in the way that will be least traumatic for him.

mygrandchildrenrock · 27/05/2014 22:46

Many years ago, when smacking children at school was still legal, my young son told me he'd been in a group of boys who had been naughty and they had all been 'given the slipper' by the headteacher. I was shocked and went to see her, only to be told that while the boys had been talked to by the headteacher, no-one had been 'given the slipper'.
In fact, that particular headteacher had never smacked/hit a child at school but the myth of being 'given the slipper' was firmly believed by the pupils!

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