To feel wretched that have dropped dd of at nursery?

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I've drooped dd (12 months) of at nursery today so I can go to work. I'm only going in for one day a week, for my own sanity really. We can scrape by with out the few quid I would bring in but I felt I needed to do something for me.

And I feel really selfish about it.

I cried my eyes out when dropping her off but she was really excited and ended up head butting the floor and we both ended up stood there crying.

It's a long day for her 8am to 6pm. I feel horrid.

You might be a mum but yiu are still s person!! You are allowed a life outside of being a mum!

She will be fine and you will adjust - give yourself time and remember it is only one day!

Just done first settling session for my 12 month old, going back 4 days per week from next week. It will be fine - done this before with eldest and it may take a while but she will enjoy it

You have nothing to feel horrid for. It makes every sense to keep your foot in the door work wise as nobody knows what the future holds. It shares a little of the financial burden and your daughter will see in future you can work and parent at the same time.

She'll make friends, possibly get party invites and will be more confident starting school as routines are similar.

There are lots of positives but it is hard to start something new.

Thanks you lot!

I really take my hat of for those who have to work full time. Must be awful.

She has a day every week to meet her friends and have fun! I think you are doing the right thing, don't stress ;)

YANBU but as you said your DD was excited so try and hold on to that thought. She will love it. My DS1 started nursery part time at 12 months and we've never looked back (he's now 2.5 and a very happy little boy who loves his nursery days - 2 per week).

That does make me feel better! She was excited at all the other little children. She loves little people.

I've just rang to check up. She is doing fine - apparently had a tantrum because she didn't want her sock back on

The first time you go off to work and leave them to enjoy a whole new experience, is emotional for most people - it will be the same when you wave them off on their first camp / holiday / residential without you, and, for some still the same when you wave them off to university or whatever they do as adults.
However, you know that a happy Mum will mean a much happier baby, and, many, many people need to have a break from the 24/7 that is being a SAHP, so this will make you a happier person.
Also you know how much sense it makes to keep a foot in the door of the world of work. There are endless threads on here about the difficulties of trying to get back into work after being at home for a number of years.
Of course YANBU to go to work.

i cried when i had to leave my two too.

its really tough working full time and id go back to being a sahm if i could but that's not going to be the case for the next year or so.

you don't stop being a mum cause you have to work.

Big hugs to you hun.

I did it with my DS- 17 years ago now! I had a career then that I couldn't take a "break" from and get back into it- so had to go back to work. Glad I did because there came a stage where he didn't "need" me all the time and I would of felt a bit redundant otherwise.

Just because most of your life is ruled being Mum doesn't mean all of it should be.

YANBU but she'll be fine I'm sure

Not selfish either - you're allowed to do things for you as well as be a mum.

I'll be settling my ds for 1 day a week from next week (he's 6 months) as I have to return full time mid August.

I do feel bad but trying to be positive.

Hope all goes well for you xx

Working full time isn't that bad you know ;)

Seriously, you'll enjoying doing grown up stuff again and she'll love doing lots of new things at nursery. It does get easier and it will be good for both of you.

It'll be fine. She'll have a great time. It's just a shock stepping out of the baby bubble

It's tougher for you, because you have all those feelings of guilt. Your daughter has a load of opportunities for play and new people and other babies.

I'm working full time with a baby younger than yours, and while it's difficult at times, it's certainly not awful. You might find that you enjoy the time to do other things. I guess this depends on how much you like your job.

The first time I did that, I cried all the way from the nursery to work in the car. I was a complete wreck. I phoned them only to learn that ds was having a wonderful time. I was the one that was having trouble adjusting!
You are not being selfish or unreasonable. She will be just fine. You both will.

First day back off maternity, I checked my phone a lot.

Very soon, I was in work and tbh I was that busy that I didn't give them a 2nd thought, until I burnt my tongue on a coffee.

I'm just back and dropping off my 3rd baby 12 months too. It was awful for two weeks but it's been a month and the change in him is amazing. He is so much more outgoing, happy to interact with other people where he would have stayed glued to my side previously. He still has a meltdown when I drop him off but he stops within seconds of me leaving (I peep through the window after dropping others into their rooms) and is happily siting on a knee or playing in the home corner