To be looking forward to some time without dd3?

[Dancergirl]

I have 3 dds aged 13, 11 and 7. Dd3s behaviour can be quite challenging at times, she likes her own way and often refuses to compromise. I find her much harder work than the older two at that age, although I try v hard not to label her and I do obviously love her to bits.

Older 2 dds have half term this week, dd3s half term is next week. Dh has taken a few days off this week and we're going to have a bit of time with older two.

I am looking forward to it and not to deal with tantrums, whining and moaning. And older dds are too. They are close and enjoy each other's company and even though I try to encourage them to include dd3 a bit more, the age gap is big at the moment and they get also get fed up with dd3s behaviour.

So AIBU to enjoy a bit of dd3 free time?

Absolutely not. I would see it more as enjoying some time with DD's 1&2 and allowing them to do things you couldn't do with DD3 in tow. They will probably really appreciate it.

I hope you will do some special things with dd3 next week. She must be aware of her sisters' closeness and may feel a bit left out by all of you. Her behaviour is probably at least partly attention seeking. It must be hard to find activities to suit all 3 and you must often go with the majority ie the older one. Third child after a gap, third girl in the family....
YANBU at all but try to look forward to some one to one time with dd3 as well.

Of course not it is ok to spend time with the others jst think how peaceful it will be iwe all need a break and time away

YANBU
DD2 went in for the 6-7 'the world revolves around me' phase too. It's very wearing. She was also a dreadful fuss pot about food.

Days out without her were very restful.

That doesn't mean I didn't enjoy days with just her, especially once she was slightly older she can be great fun both on her own and with everyone else now.

Thank you.

greylady I have a lovely week planned with dd3 next week. We've booked to see the Lion King and dh coming too. She loves animals so also going to a couple of local farms. I'm looking forward to that week too. Dd3 is lovely on her own, really lovely company. It's the interaction with her sisters mainly that's hard work.

Oh that sounds a lovely week I love lion king enjoy , I only have 2 dds I like spending time with them on their own dd2 was a bit full on when she was younger poor dd1 was left out so I decided to make sure I took tme with each on their own

That sounds perfect. You are definitely not being unreasonable to look forward to the week with the older ones :)