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Husband nan and grandad couldn't bbothered to congratulate us on the birth of our son we rang them to say he was here text so on got Ansew machine haven't herd from themhe was born 1st April husband family sister and dad are going to visit them tomorrow I've said no because I think why should I bother to take my sons there when they can't b bothered to see if we were ok just a phone call would have been nice they live 30 mins away are able to drive and now aparantly I've taken this all to heart and should go and see them I wouldn't put up with it if it was my nan and grandad so don't see why I should if it's his I've said if your bothered you can take the boys but he's got work should I excuse them because they are old am I being unreasonable x

Congratulations on your boy!
Is it possible they didn't get the message somehow?

I think they've not got the message Altho your op is a little difficult to decipher. I expect they would be gutted and mortified to miss out so please make the effort and then at you'll known for sure. I cannot imagine in a hundred years that they would ignore this. Benefit of the doubt or eternal regrets. Give them a chance. Please?

They must have heard the news from somewhere after nearly two months surely?

Has your DH asked his family what's going on with them or whether they know?

What are they like normally?

If they only live 30 mins away, why hasn't your DH been round to see them in that time? Isn't he worried if nobody's heard from them for so long?

I can understand on the face of it why you might take it to heart, but it all depends on why they haven't been in touch.

You haven't been in touch with them either though? Bar the message I mean. So a) they are still waiting for a phone call, and don't consider a message sufficient or b) they are not very good with their answering machine and haven't heard the message so think you've not been in touch or c) something else is going on.
This isn't the time to bear a grudge, give them the benefit of the doubt and go visit. You can always make it the last visit, if they continue to be disinterested.

Give them a call again, when people get older they have lots on their minds I'm sure they would love to see your baby .

Your OP is difficult to read, but if I've got it right, you are thinking of refusing to let a couple see their new Great Grandchild as they've not phoned you ?

Really ?

Maybe they've been on MN and read all the threads about new Mums not wanting any visitors for weeks and not wanting anyone to hold their baby etc.
or all the threads about how intrusive it is when people telephone you

etc.etc.

Be the bigger person - it's lovely to show off your new baby.

This is why punctuation is important.

It makes reading easier.

...You must encourage your children to see their grand parents as much as possible. If you are talking Great-grand parents, even more so! Your children will bring a spark to their life every time they see them.

Sorry have written this on my phone and it has a mind of it's own. They have. Been in contact with sister in law so they know my son is here and have actually passed threw were we live they are very strange couple they only speak to one of there children they have 3. They no longer speak to my mother in law because she let there son stay at her house she said to her son in our wedding day just to let u no ur dead to me there not nice people and I'm not stopping them seeing my kids they can come over or my husband can take them I just don't really want to be around them

At least you been told. My dh db didn't tell is dsis was pregnant despite dbil seeing dh a month ago. Dh was told by dmil 3 weeks ago after the birth and I still not be told (dh told me but told not to). Very strange affair but they always were very strange. Pity they got dmil involved as she's lovely. congratulations by the way x