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AIBU?

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To find this belittling?

32 replies

ProtegeMoi · 26/05/2014 19:46

Ok genuine AIBU and quite willing to accept I am. Just want to know if other posters would find this belittling.

This time last year I was the main 'housework' person as a SAHM but I have spent the last year doing a very intensive college course which has involved me being out the house 4 days a week and studying / doing homework on the others. This has meant DP has taken over the majority of the housework.

Anyway it's half term, I'm coming to the end of my course and have some time so while DP was upstairs I started cleaning the kitchen, which always involves emptying washing machine, putting wash on etc. We go through a lot of washing in this house!

So while I'm cleaning DP comes down and starts sorting a pile of wet clothes, "was just about to do that" I say but leave DP to it.

I do a few other bits and then go to empty the dryer at which point DP stops me and says they are doing it, I argue back no I was doing the kitchen it's fine. DP then says "it's my job I'll do it" and after a back and forth of arguing over who was doing the washing (madness I know) and DP telling me to do the living room instead I storm off.

Is it just me who finds it really belittling to be a) stopped from doing a job I did for 7 years precious quite fine and b) to have my jobs dictated to me like a child?

I am quite possibly overreacting on this as feeling quite distanced from my family with all the studying I've been doing and just wanted to do some "mumsy" things.

It definitely wasn't a nice, I'll do it have a break stopping me by the way but a I'm doing this so find something else.

So AIBU?
Or should that be am I being over emotional and touchy?

OP posts:
Melonbreath · 29/05/2014 20:05

You're complaining about your Oh doing household jobs?????????? Are you mad???????

hotdiggity · 29/05/2014 20:07

I'm doing a PGCE in September after being a SAHM. What you've just described is my dream scenario! Sadly it will never happen for me.

Xihha · 30/05/2014 00:27

I know that feeling, my final assignment of the year was in today, I'm now celebrating with cake and trashy TV (the kind where you don't have to think at all).

ProtegeMoi · 30/05/2014 01:48

Yes melonbreath - it's already been established that not only am I unreasonable but also deranged lol.

Xihha - well done! My last one is due in a week next Thursday and then I can relax. For 6 weeks at least anyway.

OP posts:
Katkins1 · 30/05/2014 01:59

I have just finished uni as a lone parent. You will need all the help you can get, I'd leave your partner to it if I were you :D

PrincessBabyCat · 30/05/2014 02:01

Come to my house. I'll let you get as territorial as you want over the chores! Grin

Celia, I knew it was a woman because a man would never insist on doing housework. It's a joke, chill!

Xihha · 30/05/2014 03:35

not too long then, good luck and in the mean time I'd let DP do as much of the housework as possible.

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