My SiL is getting married at the end of August and going off on honeymoon for 2 weeks. It is her 2nd marriage and her child (8) is staying with her grandparents. SiL has told me that they will find this a struggle but will have a get on with it as they offered. Her partner also has a child (11) with some behavioural and learning issues. His mother currently has limited and controlled access and so he will be staying with her and an Aunt and separately another Uncle. The 11 year old has never spent more than a week apart from his Dad.
I think this is all a bit selfish especially as SiL has not been on holiday with her child, or with new family, for 3 years due to lack of effort rather than money.
To add to the mix the wedding list is only for contributions to the honeymoon.
I've tried to raise my concerns with SiL and other family members but have been fobbed off with "we deserve it"or "she's decided so that's it" or my favourite "what do you know you are not a mother".
So I turn to you......am I being unreasonable......