Quick - help me decide whether to go to work event

[TiffanyAtBreakfast]

Not 100% sure AIBU is quite the right place for this, but I'd really appreciate your quick opinions on my predicament!

We are supposed to be going to my DH's work function in a few hours. I have woken up with a very painful back (have a longstanding condition).

If I go, I will be uncomfortable and possibly aggravate my back even more. Plus it's an outdoor event and it's chucking it down.

If I don't go, I'll be letting DH down as it's a family day and he will have to go alone. Plus I think his colleagues will be because we didn't go to

If you are going to be in pain and not enjoy it then no, I wouldn't go

Sorry, posted too quickly! The last sentence should read that we didn't go to a night out recently because DH didn't fancy it.

Soooo do I stay or do I go?!

Will it def still be on in the rain?

Thanks Mutton.

Yes sadly still going ahead :(

Do you have children to take? If he takes them it'll look ok

What's your DH's view - does he want to go on his own, go with you knowing how horrible it would be for you or both of you cancel and have some chilled time together?
If it's the first then he goes and sod other people's opinions.
If it's the second then he's an arse given you've both cancelled something because he didn't want to do it and so I would say that's a precedent and you shouldn't be made to go.
The third to me is the best option and it's usually the default position for me and my Dh (but we are unsociable buggers that prefer being together than going to work do's!)

Thanks all. He's being fine about going by himself, I just have the guilts which is probably stupid! I'll just stay home and try not give a stuff what his colleagues think.

Oops, wrong thread, I've reported myself.