Aibu to tell her I am not paying for a new toilet

[pud1]

My 2 dds have started playing with a 2 girls on my street. Yesterday girl 1 spent the day in my flat with my 2 dds. Later in the day girl 2 came to play. It brightened up a bit and they went outside and after a while went into girl 2 flat. Girl 2 plays at mine a lot. I have spoken to her mum but never more than to pass the time of day
This morning girl 2 mum knocked on my door to inform me that her toilet is broken and that she is going to have to replace the whole system and my dd2 must have done it on the account that she is the youngest and she did get upset over a game they were playing.
I asked both my dds who are Adamant they have not done it. I told her I would come over. I took dd2 and she showed me the damage. Basically the button is missing from the flush. Dd2 said she didn't do it so I politely told the mum that I have no intention of paying for a new toilet, not that she would need a new toilet anyway. She was obviously cheesed off. I think she just expected me to write her a cheque.

I don't think Iabu.

YANBU.

I wouldnt offer to pay a penny unless my child told me they had broken it.

The bloody cheek of her.

Nope!

Sorry love, accidents happen and who knows who did it! Home insurance anyone?

If a friend of my child's broke something, I would not dream of asking a parent to pay. As the PP said- accidents happen. She is being highly unreasonable.

The flush mechanism is broken, so no complete new system (cistern?) is required, just a part that needs to be replaced. It's a pain in the backside but that's just unfortunate.

"DD2 must have done it because she is the youngest and got upset over a game they were playing," Yeah, right.

YANBU. Old neighbours of DMs said that DS had scratched the door of their car when he was scooting with their DC. When we got back to pick him up he was very upset saying he hadn't done it. They said he had admitted it to the. Though it rankled me we paid for repair to save awkwardness for DM. Don't pay.
Karma won out for us. Another neighbour saw the owner of the car syphoning deisel from his work van and reported him to his employers.

So she wants a nice new toilet and will go to these measures to get one. I don't think I would encourage this friendship too much. Imagine accusing a child of this. She said your dd "must have done it" so she has no clue who broke it it was probably already broken.

My initial reaction was cheeky bitch. But unfortunately my youngest dd has the tendency to fib about this sort of thing. So I am doubting her but I can't see how she has don't it unless it was already dodgy.
The fact that she told me that she didn't want any hard feeling when she knocked on my door Amd has tried to get an entire new toilet out of me has pissed me off

you can get those flush button things for literally buttons. maybe suggest she stop being a drama queen and replace the bloody button, you don't even need a plumber they're that easy to fit

It costs a few quid for a new flush button. Send her to B&Q.

www.ebay.co.uk/itm/SIAMP-OPTIMA-49-DUAL-FLUSH-BUTTON-CHROME-PUSH-BUTTON-TOILET-CISTERN-/191045535415?pt=UK_HG_Toilets_RL&hash=item2c7b3386b7

Her reasoning sounds weak. Her assessment of what's required sounds massively ott.

YANBU she is being a drama queen.
My toilet has a push button flush and it is forever breaking. DP has broke, i have broke and DS has also broke it. All it takes its a little fiddle with it to fix most of the time. Even if she needs a new one it won't cost much and the whole toilet does not need replacing.

Unless she saw your DD break it then she has a cheek to ask for the money. Even if any of the DC's have broken it, it was probably an accident in which case she needs to suck it up. Kids break things sometimes, its life.

YANBU at all. The mother of girl 2 hasn't got a clue who did it and even if she did, it is just wear and tear and easily fixed. The mother of girl 2 sounds like a bit of a nightmare. I would avoid playing at her house if I was your dd.

The button on our flush broke and they said at B&Q that they don't do the ones we've got anymore (we only bought the loo off them last Aug).
I'm looking at that ebay one now and it looks very similar though.

...no
(just looked properly).

Oh yanbu btw.
Just saying, she might be right about replacing the whole thing.

If it broke there's every chance it was on the way out anyway, so it would have broken whoever was using it. But NDN has effectively admitted that she has no idea who broke it so hasn't got a leg to stand on in demanding money from you.

That happened to us in our downstairs WC, the chrome top came off the button.
We bought a replacement push part from eBay. It cost £5 and took two minutes to swap the parts.

there are lots of different ones, I'm sure there will be one to match.

If a mechanical piece is missing from something it's wear and tear. A small child can't just break a toilet part without a screw driver and some deliberate force.

Short of leaping up and down on the seat and breaking the porcelain bowl - which will bear the weight of a large adult - I can't think of anything a child could do to break a whole toilet.

I may have it wrong but I read it as the neighbour having a toilet with a push flush button and that the push in part of the button had come off, which some of them do.

Here are some pictures to show what I mean.

some people just try it on, I think. my mum replaced a panel in her fence and then the next door neighbour turned up and said that her bedding plants had got squashed in the process and could my mum write her a cheque for £100 to pay for new ones!! this was despite the fact that the panel just slid in from the top and my mum hadn't even set foot on next door's property.
she told NDN that of course, she would be happy to pay for the replacement plants, as soon as she was shown a)the original damaged ones and b)receipts and invoices for the new ones. then she smiled sweetly and closed the door in NDN's face. She never heard from NDN about it again.
I think that NDN thought my mum was a little old lady who she could confuse or bully into giving her some money. she clearly doesn't know my mum very well....