To hate a house full?

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I appear to be te minority in my family. In order to please and appease my rather gregarious family, I often do 'entertain' at my houses. I he a baby too so its easy for others to come here over an evening. I must admit it grates on me though. I hate all the dishes, all the teas, all the mess. All the noise, esspecially. I soun like a right bore - I am infact rather social! I just prefer to see one or two people at a time.

My dad has implied I have autism (bollocks) cos I hate loads of people here. Never mind the fact I am tired/ hormonal and have a restless/ bad sleeping one year old?

Argh!

I hate it aswell and subsequently never have anyone over for long. I imagine it changes when a baby comes along though as family seem to make much more of an effort to make an appearance (or atleast iv noticed this to be the case since I get further along in my pregnancy).

I dont think its autism as I never used to be like this when younger, I loved a lot of people being about. Now I havnt the time or energy, lol.

YANBU - I hate it too. Luckily I live alone so only have to have people here when I want them, but there've been times where I've had five or 6 friends over and found myself wishing they'd all just fuck off now they'd leave!
And you're right about the tidying and dishes. Hate it.

I don't have any family, but I would hate to have lots of people over if I did. I like my space and can't stand mess!

I dislike it too. Like having a friend or two round, but no more.

I hate it too, I have always got people over and it winds me up! How about you make the dinner for once and then tidy up the mess left behind!! Grrrrr!

Yes! Same here.

I hate getting up and along with all the usual stuff i have to do having to start worrying about getting the house ready to cater for guests. There's 6 of us in the house already, sometimes 7 or 8 (if we've got the 2 older DDs boyfriends round) so 2, 3 or 4 visitors make a large number. There's never enough comfy chairs, decent cups, small tables etc, and it all turns into a bit of a faff.

Nice to see family but i'd rather go to them.

One friend round to see me for a coffee and gossip is fine, cos everyone else just leaves us to it :)

Why, why, why do people not offer to pitch in and clean up when visiting? I cannot imagine expecting my host to dance attendance on me like a waiter. It's not a hotel.

You have a baby. Tell them to help themselves and please put the dishes in the dishwasher.

Ditto. I used too love having BBQ'S and get togethers but I can't be bothered now.

Prefer to do the visiting where when I've had enough I can come away. I always tidy up after myself too. Fab guest me!

You are not alone! I hate it too, DW says I am ridiculous as she loves it.
I mean, you work really hard getting the place ship shape for the visitors, then they p*ss off afterwards, the place looks like world war 7 has just happened and you have to clear it all up!!!

Call me boring but after grafting all week and most weekends (I have just got in from work) I'd rather not be clearing up the house in the little spare time I have.

Expat admittedly my family do offer to help sometimes. But generally there is still always mess left. I also get ate out of house and home by families spoke kids wanting tho or that, and they always outstay welcome. Oh we'll just pop in... Four fucking hours later.... Why!?!

Spoilt*

Dh doesnt understand. I explain thats cos he is always out the back or busying himself with something and he isn't the one up at 5am with our dd the next morn !

Don't mind family coming round (even though OHs side turn up unannounced).

Grow a pair with them! They don't offer you TELL them, 'It's do it yourself here! You know where the kettle and dishwasher are!' 'Our budget is really tight now we have a baby, so if you are stopping by make sure you bring along some biscuits, crisps, etc.'

Hide your stuff.

Expat I would feel like a tight ass saying that! Ultimately I feel wry guilty that I am not one of those people who loves having all their family round. I love having my mum over for a quiet cuppa- but I am not into aunties , brothers and kids galore also!

I feel like I need to change,as my family imply I do and I am neurotic. Hmm.

Can you go out the back busying yourself instead

YNBU to not like it, but I do think it's U if you go to there's but don't reciprocate (unless there is a v. good reason).

How about organising a day out instead?

No it is genereally people always here not the other way actually!

I hate having people to stay in our current house-it's titchy and cramped and doesn't flow well so you're always in someone's way. If you have more than 3 people (me, DH and DS) it just feels like a squash. we have no dishwasher so the washing up piles up immediately and I can't bear queueing for bathroom, other people being noisy etc. we are soon moving to a 3 storey, 4 bed house-guests will have their own floor and DS will be asleep two stories up. Then we can have guests!

I just don't invite anyone and turn down invitations to theirs. Sorted!