To hate my life?

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...Aibu to expect my opinions and suggestions not to be condescended/patronised/disagreed with automatically all the time by fiancée?

In v unhappy relationship. Couldn't say I even consider him to be my friend anymore. Have been engaged for 5 years, in relationship for 11, we have a dd who is nearly 4.

I stay in this life as I have lost my confidence and respect for myself since having dd. had traumatic pregnancy, birth and very hard first few years and have suffered with depression and been on ad since dd was 5 months old

Had lots of counselling to get me through it all (inc relationship counselling) and love dd to bits but feel trapped in an otherwise empty life and am given little or no respect by fiancée. Think he is probably depressed too, but he denies it. There is only one opinion that matters and that's his. God I used to be so strong!!

Would have left a long time ago if I had any family to help me or anywhere that I could call home. Have no money or savings. Just so fed up with it all. Feel like walking out and not coming back but I know I couldn't do that. Sorry just needed to vent!! Any nuggets of help appreciated.

Start making an exit plan.

You are in an emotionally abusive relationship, find the money to start saving for a deposit for a place that accepts dss.

You will get benefits to help you finically

If you want to walk out and not go back, you can. There isn't really anything stopping you.

The support is there, the safety net is there, your family and friends will help and support you...all you have to do is figure out a few things out.

Are you absolutely sure the relationship you are is now dead? Is it worth putting in any more effort?

Would you want DD feeling like you are now in this relationship? What can you do to change it? What can HE do to change it?

What example do you want to set for your DD?

These are the big questions. The other things like money, childcare, maintainence etc will all sort themelves out in time. You just have to make that scary leap into the unknown and face your fear of what may or may not happen.

Sorry you're in this situation. Are you working? If not, might that be a first step in developing some financial independence as well as a support network and a little confidence? I know it's easy to suggest and much harder to do, just wanted to bump this for you.

Sorry you feel that way but you aren't the first and certainly won't be the last. Plenty of people split up when they don't have financial security.

I suggest you get yourself off to citizens advice and trawl the relationships board and the internet to get the information you need to know on how to leave. Also see if a local solicitor does a free half hour consultation.

My mum and dad stayed together for my sake, they were both good people but the marriage wasn't a good one and this shaped my perception of relationships and my expectations of life negatively.

I therefore don't believe in staying together for the sake if the children. I personally believe single is better than together and unhappy.