To think that my DH was incredibly rude to me on the phone?

[StuntNun]

Me: "Hello?"
DH: "Hello, are you busy with DS3?"
Me: "No, mum's looking after him (pause) I'm making bracelets with DS2 at the moment."
DH: "When you've finished talking will you let me know so I can talk?"
Me: "Hang on a minute, that's really rude, you can't talk to me like that."
DH: Click.

I can't believe he would speak to anyone else like that. So AIBU to think DH was incredibly rude to me?

Eh?

I don't get it. How was he incredibly rude?

Huh? Do you mean he complained that you were talking too much? Or that he wanted you to call him back when you had a moment? I'm not sure I understand....

It sounds rude on the face of it. Did he need to know whether you were busy with ds3 because he urgently needed to say something?

Erm. Sounds more like he was asking to talk to you when it was convenient for you, not being rude!

Yes, that sounds snotty of him.

Sounds like there's a backstory.. Do you often talk over him or something? If not, it's more random than rude.

It sounds like he was already in a bad mood.

I get you completely that's really obnoxious

Yep in a bad mood anyway.

yes he sounds rude and then made it worse by hanging up on you

Extremely rude.

No he meant when I had finished saying what I was saying he expected me to say "I've finished talking now so you can talk." When I complained that that was rude he hung up on me. Which is also rather rude come to think of it.

:( very rude

Blatant snottiness. He's obviously in a mood and stressed but not really the way to get you to pay attention.
I would have been tempted to say something like.... You'll know when I'm done talking. Now tell me when your ready to not be a rude prick.

Well is he normally rude? Was it a joke? Can't judge from your post really. Have to know the full story. Hope not a drop feed.

I get it completely and i'd have called him back with a right earful. You didn't talk over him anyway, he asked if u were busy with your son, you replied no busy with DD.

Sounds like he was already on his high horse. If he wanted to tell u something urgently he could have said, after you had mentioned DD, ok and got on with what he wanted to say. Its not your fault you're not a mind reader and automatically know he needs to talk!

That was rude, yes. Your one sentence of additional information about what you were doing was too much talking in his opinion? Fucking rude.

My dp does the same thing when he's stressed or I'm a bad mood. I wouldn't call him, as mine wouldn't answer the phone, but I would text him to tell home I thought he was rude

yes he was being pissy.

Another vote for rude, what an arse.

Id text him and say "don't call me back til you've learned some manners"

Fucking hate rudeness

Maybe I'm being a bit oversensitive. I just think a normal conversation has some give and take. He asked me whether I was looking after the toddler. I tried to give him some clarification with my answer. If he wanted the fastest conversation possible he should have said, "I'm running late, is there any chance you could start dinner or have you got your hands full with DS3?" To which I could have said, "Yes I can get dinner on the go." Now I'm doubly huffy as dinner is going to be late.

Mind boggling.

Do you mean that when he asked if you were busy with DS3 you should have just said "no"?

It does sound rude-I'm assuming it wasn't joking, but I would either have asked what he meant or finished what I was saying & said "over".

He may have had a point.

I'm not sure what he said was particularly rude, I think that your response was rude but his hanging up was very rude!

hes an arse

i remember a long long time ago ( 20 years ish) dh was a twat with me on the phone - i had three kids under 5, he was working as a security guard at a factory on his own

i got the phone - ripped it out of the wall, put the kids in the car, drove the 10 mins to his work, parked up outside, got out the car, threw it in his security cabin and drove off before he could say anything.

classy!