To ask about CSA changes - is anyone happy?

[pennypinchingnamechanger]

Sorry not a very exciting AIBU but just a topic of discussion I thought others might be interested in...

Everything I have read on here so far about the new Child Maintenance changes, moving from CSA to CMS, the charges, the new rules etc has been negative.

We will be better off financially under CMS rules.

AIBU to ask if anyone else will benefit from the changes too?

I spoke to the CSA today and asked about this.
I was told:
Everyone that is currently involved with the case won't Incure the £20 charge any new cases will be done by the CMS but people who are with the CSA will continue to be with them, she stated that they also haven't 100% decided if they will shut down the CSA in the next 3 years it's still being sorted out and meetings are being held about it

My DS's dad is a emotional, domestic and financial abuser I stated I didn't want him having my bank details and wanted them to collect I was told that would be what I would get also it wouldn't be a trial it to see if he could pay or not it would he that they collect the money I would just get the 4% charge.

They won't force you to talk to your ex!

That is what I was told today

Honestly, I think you have been given incorrect information with regards to them collecting without him being given chance to pay direct. Although it could be a special circumstances thing for victims of DV if that's what you said to them. I know there's certain rules in place for DV cases such as not having to pay certain fees.

Direct payments doesn't require any conversation with your ex. They can be passed the bank details to pay into by a third party, by your solicitor, a letter or even the CMS themselves. Your ex is given the chance to pay the correct amount on time into your account, if this is not kept to then normal enforcement applies, lump sums take to cover arrears, DEO, money from bank accounts etc.

He's not my ex, he also is not permitted for him to have my bank details

I'm confused duck? You said your DS's dad is a emotional domenstic and financial abuser andthat you've spoken to CSA about him paying direct/not having your bank details but in your next post you've said he's not your ex? I don't understand.

I think the CMS said they were setting up another way doing direct payments though I don't know the details. Like a third party account for people that don't want to give their bank details to their ex but where the ex agrees to try direct payments.

Needaholiday. That sounds pretty awful. Being forced to pay for things the other parent has decided on. Luckily DSD's mum isn't the type to do that, it tends to be my DH or I that find things she might like to do, then they get suggested to ex and things tht cost only go ahead when she agrees.

I was never in a relationship with mum DS's father, so he is not my ex.

50/50 care should mean an equal share of care as well as financial commitments. This is factored into the CMS conditions for 50/50 care. If you can prove that although you both have 50/50 time with your children you pay for the majority of the costs then maintenance can still apply. My other half has his son 50/50 and pays CSA plus extras. His ex and her husband earn substantially more than our household and the CSA claim is about keeping an element of control and pure greed. For all the money they earn he still does without. For one I will be glad when/if he moves to the new system because it would mean he would contribute to half of all his sons needs but wouldn't be supplementing her income any further. His ex has made comments like 'it pays for my nails'. The system is unfair for so many people in so many ways.