to assume dn doesn't need these

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DN is young and having a baby. I said to her id let her have some stuff and clothes. Baby not born yet but she has recently advertised on facebook local sale that she has baby clothes for sale, loads of stuff various sizes, i know some other ppl let her hav clothes. This has put me off letting her have clothes (she can have other stuff) as if she is selling she must have enough already. I would rather give it to someone else who's not family or charity shop who would actually use it. AIBU or should i let her sell and spend the money as she wants?

Is she selling them to pay bills do you think? Has she got a job?

I'd probably FB her 'hope mother and baby well. Sounds like you already have too many baby clothes'

No I don't think you are being unreasonable I accepted all offers of baby things and clothes and I was,nt a young mum I was 33 when I had ds1 and 36 with ds2 when they grew out of stuff or I no longer needed stuff I passed them on .

Maybe she doesn't like them or has too many of what she's actually selling?

Some people are too polite to refuse offers of baby clothes for fear of causing offence.

It might make sense to her to sell them and save the money/spend it on things she really does need.

Maybe who ever donated them said if you don't make use of all the stuff you can sell it. Bit YANBU if you don't want to donate clothes donate something else.

You don't want to give them to her so just don't. It's your stuff, you aren't obliged to give it away.

Isn't it good that she then sells the stuff she doesn't need to get money for other expenses? Why is it a problem for her to do this, but not for a charity shop? Unless you think she's just being grabby and doesn't really need the money?

you shouldn't really sell them on though should you i felt guilty about weighing in a stack of baby clothing some of which i had been given but they were used for four children so they had pretty much had it!

Is this stuff people has given her which she is now selling? If so that's extremely rude and and I wouldn't be giving her a thing!

She could have gotten a huge box that she'll never use. I can't even get through DD's clothes for each size of to wear once because some are for the wrong season and some are for show not practicality, and she has about 20 outfits per size.

Why not give her the other stuff and keep the clothes?

Just to point out, i know it is nothing to do with me if she is selling the clothes she has, its up to her. It just puts me off giving her more stuff that will then also potentially be sold on without being used, i would rather them to someone who will use themselves. The baby isn't even here yet so hasn't grown out of them!!

btw she is working and lives with parents so isn't so short of cash that she needs to sell stuff altho obviously ever one with a baby on the way can always do with extra cash

Maybe she bought things and changed her mind about them after a while, we've all done it, no receipt = no return in most places, cant think how much crap I've bought over the years and sold on without using. Maybe people have 'gifted' her things she is too polite to say "eew that is disgusting and should be burned" so instead says "thank you, that's lovely" and swears to herself its going as soon as they leave.