To expect to be told if I am or am not babysitting

[NotoriouslyReliable]

A friend asked me to babysit for her 2 DC all day tomorrow (7-6) not a problem said that was absolutely fine.

She has called me once cancelling, and then rang again asking if in fact I could still babysit. I said yes it was still OK. I then receive a text saying "I might not need you for Saturday will let you know". That was on Monday.

I tried ringing her this morning and have sent a text message asking what is happening but no response.

I am happy to babysit for her if she needs me but I'm getting less happy about hanging around waiting to find out. If I've got her DC then that's great no plans need to be made to entertain DD as they will play happily together. However if we don't have her DC myself and DD have been asked to do something tomorrow which I would definitely do but need to let them know by 18.00 so I doubt that will be happening since my friend doesn't think actually telling me what's happening if necessary

WIBU to send her a message saying "can you let me know if I'm watching DC or not because if not I would like to make plans"?

I had a text at exactly 06.47 this morning saying she wouldn't need me.

text back "Just as well, I'd made other plans!"

I wouldn't bother putting myself out for her any more then. Your boyfriend is right.

Dear me. Some people 'ey

God - I would text back and say "it would have been considerate to let me know sooner". No way I would be able to resist pointing out how out-of-order she has been!

text back "Just as well, I'd made other plans!"

^This is exactly what I would do.

Yes that is incredibly rude, unless she's under severe emotional strain or something like that, I'd distance myself. Sorry you've been treated like that!

I agree with others. I'd distance myself or at least make it clear how rude she's being. If she had a valid reason such as personal/emotional issues going on then would she not have said so? "So sorry I didn't get back to you sooner but_" To not even apologise is just out of order

Wow, that is really rude. Please don't let her have an opportunity to do something similar in future.

I'd text back
'I wish you had let me know sooner in the week as I could have made other plans'

No passive agressive shite. Just the truth.

Does she really think that is ok? I'd just say no next time.

Well she rang me about 11ish today and asked why I hadn't replied to her message this morning (ahem, bit of a cheek)

I told her that basically that I wasn't overly impressed with the way she handled the situation. That I don't mind helping out looking after her DC but in return I expect to be kept in the loop and not just used as you would a nursery (by deciding on the day not to take them for whatever reason). I told her I had actually made plans the night before because she hadn't got back to me. Her response was... "What if I had needed you to still look after DC?"

Don't think I'll be babysitting any time soon ever again

She's got some brass neck, hasn't she?

Blooming cheek!

Cheeky cah!

Don't let her sweet talk you into offering to watch her dc's again, she sounds the sort who'll assume you're there for her when she needs help.

"Then you would have been stuck - you need to give me more notice, you daft thing ;-) x"

Passive-aggressive smiley and kiss means she can't say you were being off with her.