Brother and friend has split up.

[FamilyAndFriends]

I have name changed.

My friend and my brother fell in love and had my amazing nephew, was happy for years and quite recently have split up.

I am now being torn emotionally apart.

SIL is still my friend and my brother will always be my brother.

When they both got together I was happy for them, didn't feel no resentment but hoped this situation would never happen.

Who do I support, they both mean so much to me.

Well both obviously. Just don't get involved in agreeing with them if they say the other has acted badly.

There's no reason to take sides and anyone who asks you to is in the wrong.

Try relationships.

Keep neutral for your nephew.

I would only get involved if my brother dicks around with paying maintenance and contact. Highly unlikely.

Having a different but fairly similar situation my brother ans sister inlaw getting together whilst very young and so we all kind of grow up together. They recently split and obviously support given to both without getting too involved.

Even if he does behave like a dick etc, even then don't get involved. Maybe your saying that indicates you may be on your friends side already. What if she acts like a dick over contact and money? That's why it's best to not get involved full stop.

I wouldn't be nasty to my brother, just talk to him and tell him that it's in the best interest for his son.

Stay neutral. Keep nose out.

You just support both. You don't have to choose just one. Stay neutral.

Is it acrimonious? Do you actually need to take sides?

We've had friends who have split up and are decent enough to know that the ex is still a good person and it's just that they weren't meant to be together so they could understand why friendships with both were maintained.

Stay neutral, I think.

But - I may be being odd, but I'd slightly err on the side of reassuring your friend (unless there is good reason not to). Because your brother will always be your brother, but one of the really horrible things about any split is you lose some friends.

I'd keep it very much hidden from your brother, though, and very much restricted to things that are non-controversial.