To close / but a break on this friendship.

[DramaQueenofHighCs]

Sorry if this doesn't make sense or is disjointed, I'm just so upset I can't think straight.
Long story short (I can elaborate if asked/needed) Best friend of 8 years is being a bitch to me today because she hasn't got a part in our latest amateur dramatics show but I have. She had been crying at rehearsals and generally being a misery about it. Today when I tried to comfort her she sent me a text saying "Well I know for a fact that X thought my audition was AMAZING and that he wanted me for the part but was outvoted by Y and Z. I wonder if Y didn't give me the part because of last time when somebody [meaning me] gave me some bad news just before I went on stage meaning I messed up my one line" (basically I had told her I once shagged someone she fancied when we were playing 'truth' in the dressing room 1/2 an hour before she was due on!)
Thing is she also can't take criticism - she has a lovely voice, but the slightest thing makes her go out if tune and she can't get it back, but she doesn't believe and gets arsey with anyone who tells her this. She improves every time though and if she could just be less nervous she'd be great. I'm not an excellent singer either, but I can control my nerves. I also cry when I don't get parts but I'd never blame my friend for it.
She has just been so horrible and bitchy to me today by text saying it's all my fault and I should give her one of the singing parts I've got (even if I dropped out it wouldn't guarantee she would get the part). She also text me last night threatening suicide over it.
This is not the first time she's been like this over shows, but this is the worst she has ever been.
I just text her saying I can't deal with her at the moment, and that I'll always love her but I think it best we don't speak for a while. I've also blocked her on FB.

I can't stop crying cos I feel like such a bitch but I just can't handle the drama. Thing is, she has really bad depression and if she does anything stupid it will all be my fault for not being there for her.
I'm quite prepared to be told IABU for ending the friendship, but if so could you please give advice as to what to do cos I'm just at my wits end! She is a lovely girl who is getting better and better with her singing but........oh I'll shut up now. I'll be happy to answer any questions.

Thing is also that DS (5) loves her to pieces and even calls her 'Aunty' - how the hell am I going to explain it all to him??

This is awful....yes, I think you ought to distance yourself. This hysteria is really silly and your friend needs to put things into perspective. Crikey!

that level of drama would finish me off.

Assuming she's over about 15, she really needs to grow up. YANBU to distance yourself - being bitchy then threatening suicide doesn't mean you have to put up with her.

Don't worry about your DS, I'm sure he has a lot of other people in his life that he cares about and care about him. Just say "x and I have had a little falling out" or something.

You could even use it as a learning opportunity for your son by saying 'X wasn't kind to me and I don't want to be friends with her until she can be nice'. Hopefully if the real world consequences of treating your friends like shit are explained to him, he won't turn out to be a hysterical PITA like your friend. She sounds like a nightmare by the way - you're well out of it if she gets like this over something as trivial as a part in an amateur production.

Is this the plot of something?

Well for starters if she does anything silly it won't be your fault.

However, people with depression can tend to blow things out of proportion, she isn't being rational at all but if she isn't very good at the moment in her mind it's just another thing to be upset about.

You were quite bitchy telling her you had shagged someone she fancied just before she was due to go on stage, esp as you would know how that would affect her. It's only a game, you didn't HAVE to be truthful at that time.

She is obviously having a hard time at the moment, my sister is a nightmare when her depression flares up, she takes everything personally and over thinks way too much. I try and be there for her but sometimes distance is the key, you can only repeat the same conversation so many times.

Thanks for the reassurance. I mean, don't get me wrong, I've been known to overreact when I don't get parts and have a cry and a rant myself, (which makes me feel a little hypocritical) BUT I'd never blame the person who got the part, or anyone else, for it for that matter. I get a downer on my confidence but that's it. I can deal with her being upset and overreacting by being upset, but not bitchy. What am I meant to say to the production team? "Sorry no, I don't think I'll have the part after all cos my best mate wants it!"??
I actually have 'given' her one of my lines before as in was away when it was rehearsed and I came back and said 'look she's been covering for me so why doesn't she have it?' - I'd already got another bit in that show so it made sense to me.

Trouble is I really worried she'll have done something stupid as she's OD'd before but I can't contact her as I can't take the abuse I'd get back.
WIBU to call in sick tomorrow at work? I'm invigilating exams all day and 5 hours of sitting in a quiet room with nothing much to do but think is really not what I need. (Yes I know IABU about that btw, but it's just typical!)

YABVU to call in sick tomorrow. Is this for real? It sounds like an episode of Midsomer Murders, all this angst over some am dram!

betty yes I realised as soon as I had said about shagging the guy, but hindsight is a great thing. I apologised so many times about that. I have depression too, which makes me feel worse about it. I did say in my text that I'll still always love her and be there for her, I just need to sort my shit out at the moment without the extra drama.

Helpys I wish it was just a plot!

jollyohonics it is for real unfortunatly! And yes, as I put, I know myself is be VU to call in sick tomorrow and I won't do it (I'm the sort if person who has to be very ill to call in sick as I don't like letting people down especially for exam stuff.)
It's just typical timing as sitting with loads if time to think is the last thing I need but - ho hum that's life and I have to get on with it.

Well to be fair if you are also suffering from depression then spending time with another depressive person is not a good idea anyway, you will just drag each other down.

Just look after yourself at the moment and let her look after herself. Survival of the fittest and all that.