Hi, looking for some outside opinions. I'm in my early 20's, and am staying back at home with my Ma while waiting for all the legal stuff to be sorted on my new place, old owners moving out, etc. During my undergraduate days, I developed an eating disorder which I have never told her about. We don't have the best relationship; she was a lone parent, and tends to blame me for the things which have gone wrong in her life. She an be quite selfish, and ha a knack of turning my issues round onto herself. I have the condition under control, but lately have been having a few issues with food, which can happen when I be super stressed (moving house, living back with my mother, in the inal stages of pHD study), however, I am using coping mechanisms and touch wood have not had a full on relapse. Part of what helps me is being able to plan and prepare my own meals, as it gives me se control. Recently, my Ma has noticed my preference for this, and has also commented on the fact that I have list some weight. My boyfriend and old roommate are the o my people who know, and both say I don't have any obligation to talk to my mother about it, given that she has treated me badly in the past. I will not be staying with her much longer, and we do not see a lot of each other due to living at opposite ends of the country, so she could realistically never know. AIBU not to tell her, or does she have a right to know????