to be peeved inlaws think

[newcastlebelle1]

I am going to have an easy weekend. So we have 3 boys 10, 8 and rising 2. We booked a lovely holiday cottage ages ago for a family holiday. Since than ds1 has a sixer and seconder camp to go too It is an important one as it will be his last and needs it for his chief scout award. Dh suggested that he go to cottage as planned with ds2 and I can do camp runs (60 mile round trip) and than drive to cottage Monday evening.
All I got from inlaws was along the lines of "O So you are going to have a lovely relaxing weekend with ds3. Clearly they have forgotten what toddlers are like."
Plus I already have "lovely relaxing days!!" with ds3 when older boys are at school.
When actually it's ds (their son") who has the better deal I think.
Although tbh I do pretty much all ds3 care anyway unless I am physically out of the house.
Aibu

a bit u to be peeved, because, why does it matter that they've forgotten what looking after a toddler on your own is like?

Let it go, they're probably just making conversation.

Or come back with "No actually, without the older kids to help out I'll be 100% responsible for amusing and dealing with the incessant questions of a toddler, as well as attempting to keep enough headspace to provide meals and plan trips. It's going to be hard work" Expect vacant stare and head tilt.

Well, if you're not happy with the arrangement, why not suggest that your husband take both the other children? I can see how they might think that looking after one child will be easier than looking after three, but if you don't agree then rearrange.

I'd be peeved at DH. Why doesn't he take the toddler too to make the most of the holiday? You sound like you've got the worst end of the bargain.

I agree, why does the toddler need to stay with you?

Yes why is toddler missing out on trip with his dad?

Toddler is very clingy so dh feels 2 days is too long for him to be without me.

I don't agree with that point of view.

Dh and DS2 get to spend a nice weekend alone together, DS1 gets to go to his camps, Newcastlebelle and DS3 get to spend a nice weekend alone together. Everyone comes together on monday. Sounds great to me.

I would probably suggest the same.

Swap jobs with dh then so he can have a lovely time instead.

It's daft he's not taking the little one with him though.

Yes the more I think of it I am more peeved with dh.

The thing is though I have a love.y time with ds3 all week although I do accept he probably wouldn't settle easily for ds at night. Days would be ok.

I suspect H is feeling a little nervous about having the youngest without you. It'll be good for him, a bonding experience

Ok, so you take both boys to the the holiday cottage and DH stays behind. That way the children don't miss out on holiday time. Is your DH the one who wants to spend loads of money during the weekend and then when you join him you aren't allowed to? It just sounds like a similar situation.

Nail on head fourforks

Seems to me that if the one doing the driving round keeps the toddler, the poor toddler will have a rubbish time.

Whoever goes to the cottage should take youngest too, that would give him the best experience out of it.

The toddler will be less clingy once he gets more used to his father. No, your DH does the camp runs with DS3.

I would ensure the toddler goes with his dad and brother to the cottage. He's not going to get comfortable with his dad unless they actually have the time together without you.